7 Essential Things That Men Find Attractive About A Woman

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We as men, love women, it’s in our blood. There are a lot of things that we find appealing in women but, it’s only natural that there are some things about women that we find even more attractive. Because men are simple creatures, certain things appeal to all of us, similar to how certain things about us men, appeal to you.

For example, no women on this earth will say that chivalry isn’t attractive. So, if you want to have that extra edge in front of other ladies, pay close attention to this article. These are simple things and it’s really easy to apply them in your everyday life. By knowing what a man finds attractive in a woman it will become easy for you to attract any man you like. Just make sure you don’t let the new
You see, men are very visual and simple creatures, for us, attraction and infatuation happens very quickly, we don’t need to know a lot about you in order to become attracted. Basically, it’s all down to your first impression.  It’s also true that in time, this changes and our appreciation for you will be at a much deeper level but for starters here are the things that catch our eyes:

1.       A cheerful woman
Nothing turns a man off more than a depressed and mean attitude. If you want to get that extra attention make sure you look cheerful because a flirty giggle and a cheerful attitude can quickly melt any man’s heart.
I agree that it’s not always easy to have such an attitude but if you can think about the happier side of life, all the time, this will happen naturally. It’s the same for you isn’t it? Would you date a guy that hates his life and is genuinely miserable? Probably not, so think about this next time you go out.
2.       A well dressed, good looking woman
Yes, we men are attracted by looks, you knew it, I said it and it’s the truth. But do not worry because this doesn’t mean you have to undergo plastic surgery…
Dressing well and looking good are things that you can immediately change. I’m not going to give any lessons on fashion as I’m probably not the right person to do so however, caring about what you put on and the way you apply some make-up can be detrimental when it comes to attracting men.
Just focus on dressing well and feeling good about yourself. If you feel good about how you look then the people around you will feel the same way. You don’t have to wear flashy color clothes or anything like that, just be confident, have well fitted clothes and use a little bit of perfume and you’ll be attracting some males in no time.
3.       A flirty woman
There’s nothing like a woman that can flirt back. We know that in order to attract a woman we have to flirt. Sadly, often times they don’t flirt back but…when they do…it’s absolutely amazing. Flirting back puts you in a very strong WOMANLY position, not only are getting in control but also you are acting like a woman. A womanly woman is absolutely infatuating for any man on this planet.
What do you need to do? Simple things like curling your lips or biting them slightly, raising your eyebrows when you make a smart remark, jiggling at our jokes, being genuinely interested in what we say – these sort of things. If you can’t yet master this subtle art, try looking at yourself in the mirror and exercise there. It may seem awkward at first but it will help you get the hand of things fairly quickly.
4.       Show us some skin
Now this isn’t a guide on how to be slutty however, that little bit of extra skin turns our heads in an instant. Too much skin is a cry for attention and men know it but if you play it subtle – It will work a lot better.
A shirt or a tee that ends just right around where your jeans start or a perfectly fitting top with a wider neck that shows a bit but yet needs a bit of craning to get a peep is just the perfect combination. We love those nearly-there peeks and it drives us crazy.
5.       A seductive voice
Again, this isn’t about changing your voice but using it correctly. There are little things in life that make the hair on a man’s back raise with excitement and a woman’s voice is one of them. Mastering the art of the seductive voice takes time so don’t focus on it too much.
Men are turned off by high pitched glass shattering squeals that most women use when they’re surprised or ecstatic with joy. A low and soft voice is obviously more attractive. Lucky for you, it’s actually not that hard to speak in a low, softer tone without seeming like you’re trying too hard. Exercise your new found talent on the phone but don’t blame me if the guy on the other line starts to get flirty.
6.       A Damsel In Distress
Maybe the term damsel in distress is too much for this but you get the idea, a woman in need. This may actually be a man’s dream, to help out a woman in need…as it gives them the perfect opportunity to be A MAN in front of you.
Men love to feel wanted and then appreciated by women. You might think that men hate doing errands and stuff like that but we hate it only when we’re in a long term relationship. At the beginning, we are at your disposal so use us in any way you want. So, if you know a single guy, go up to him with a smile on your face and ask him to help you with something, chances are he’ll jump to your help immediately.
We love women that ask for our help, it just makes us feel manlier and it gives us the opportunity to have a conversation with you. And when you thank us with a flirty smile, there’s a good chance we’ll do anything to get your number.
7.       A woman who acknowledges a man’s stare
This is the first step in seduction and probably the most important. You need to have the ability to acknowledge our stares. Sure, some guys have a lot of guts and approach you instantly but most guys don’t have this type of attitude and you need to give them at least the slightest reason to react.
Many guys will try to get your attention by giving a manly stare. React to this by looking back at them. You don’t even have to smile (sure if you do, you give them even more reasons to approach you) but even just acknowledging their look is enough. You don’t need to do this with every guy that looks at you, but if he seems decent enough, do it.
Also, you don’t need to marry him or have his babies but this will give you the chance meet a guy, you can decide later if he’s your type or not …if no guy comes to you in any given night, how will you ever find a guy this way? This simple acknowledgement of a stare is the most important thing you can do if you want to get a guy to notice you and come in for the approach.
In conclusion, now that you have this knowledge make sure you use it wisely. There are a lot of women out there that just scream for attention, don’t be that woman because we men, hate her. Attract us but show us that you’re different when we approach you, this is how long term relationships are built.

6 OF THE BEST CHRISTMAS MESSAGES TO SEND YOUR PARTNER THIS CHRISTMAS

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Christmas is here again and the celebrations have kicked off all over. If you are thinking of messages to send your partner, I have got 6 of the best Christmas messages.
Below are the messages that would put a smile on the face of your partner

1. You are the gift I ask Santa for every Christmas. Merry Christmas to the one I love.

2. Having you as my lover makes me feel as if it is Christmas all year round. The warmth and comfort that comes with this season reminds me of you.

3. Feelings are many but words are few. Clouds are dark but the sky is blue. Love is a paper, life is glue. Everything is false, only my love is true. Merry Christmas.

4. This is the season for bright lights and shiny packages. It is a time for sharing love and being together. It is a time for wishing you all the best.

5. Time to celebrate the birth of the only one who could love you more than me. Merry Christmas to you my darling.

6. Why do I need Christmas presents when I already have you? Merry Christmas to the most beautiful angel on earth. I love you.

5 THINGS EVERY SINGLE LADY SHOULD KNOW

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While some ladies treat being single as normal, others hate it when they are single; they just get too frustrated when they are single. For all the single ladies out there, I have got 5 things you need to know
1. DON’T WORRY ABOUT WHAT OTHERS SAY:
It’s so easy to get frustrated and worry too much if you are a single woman who is in her 30s. The pressure from friends and family can just be too much to handle. As a single woman, you need to understand it’s your life and you shouldn’t live it for others. No one should control your relationships for you; you alone should be in control.
2. BETTER TO HAVE A BROKEN RELATIONSHIP THAN A BROKEN MARRIAGE:
If you ask those that have gone through divorce, they would tell you it’s much easier ending a relationship than ending a marriage. You go through a lot when you end a marriage and because you are now single after your last relationship failed doesn’t mean it’s the end of the world for you.
3. BETTER TO BE SINGLE THAN BEING WITH THE WRONG PARTNER:
You should understand that because your best friend is in a relationship doesn’t mean they are happy in that relationship. Some people endure being in an unhealthy relationship because they are scared of being single. You should get so frustrated and end up with a person you don’t love.
4. ENJOY YOUR SINGLE STATUS:
You should enjoy being single because you won’t be restricted from doing whatever you want to do. Instead of worrying about being single, I think you should instead live life and be happy. Learn new skills, make new friends etc.
5. TIME TO STOP SOME NEGATIVE HABITS:
When you are single it’s important you use that time to re-evaluate why your previous relationship came to an end and try to make yourself a better person. Maybe you are someone who gets angry easily, you should use that time to work on yourself and you never know, your ideal man could just be around the corner.
Being single isn’t the end of the world.

5 REASONS WHY MEN ARE SCARED OF MARRIAGE

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Before now, men believed in marriage. More men understood the significance of the union, and what it means to have a person in your life with whom you can share your life, and raise a family with; but today, the story isn’t quite the same. More men are running away from marriage, and it’s alarming. Rather than get married, more men want to live the single life longer than is acceptable.
So what is really responsible for this growing new trend? Well, here’s what I think…

1. FEAR OF GIVING UP THEIR FREEDOM
A lot of men feel like getting married means they’re no longer in control of their lives. They believe that once you get married, you’ll have to submit to the whims of your ‘tyrannical bride’ in order to keep the marriage a happy one. So, In order to avoid this ‘loss of freedom’, they avoid marriage all together. They’d rather not marry in order to be able to come and go as they please, hang out at the clubs, engage in their hobbies, and just live their life the way they desire without having to be responsible to another person, but this thought pattern is only a result of immaturity and the lack of understanding of marriage because it doesn’t have to be like this. The only way this can be a reality is if you marry the wrong person—the kind of person that wants you to fit into their box instead of appreciating you for the person you are. More men need to understand that marriage isn’t a death sentence on their lives, but an opportunity to share it with a wonderful person if they do the right thing and select the right mate for them.
2. FEAR OF LOSING THEIR FRIENDS
I’ve heard some men say they don’t want to give up their lives, friends, and social life in exchange for their bride and family. You might think I’m kidding, but I’m serious. They act as if there is no way their new life of marriage can co-exist with their friends, but that isn’t true. Marriage and personal life can coexist…you just need to find a balance.
3. THE BELIEF IN THE MARRIAGE STEREOTYPES
You must be aware that there are men who believe all the stereotypes of marriage and want nothing to do with them. They are certain their wife is going to ‘nag them to death’ about any and everything. The wife is going to transform into a sexless being that is all about money, the kids, and whine. She is going to become a strict task master who only wants to see her own wishes done, and nothing more.
This belief is funny, because clearly, men who think like this are getting their information from non-married people or unhappily married men. These stereotypes are wrong and off base (depending on who you marry). I think it is most important to select the right person to marry and if you do, then you will live a wonderful married life. If not, you could become one of these bitter men walking around perpetuating these marriage stereotypes
4. FEAR OF COMMITMENT
This is true, most men have a classic fear of commitment; you know, that type most people talk about when it comes to marriage. Being with one person is something that seems unnatural to most men. They are afraid to be vulnerable and completely give themselves up for another person in addition to all the horror stories they are told about marriage.
I think this fear is a natural feeling all people experience. However, I think marriage can be an amazing experience if you’re with the right person. Of course, there’ll be rough patches, but being with the right person makes it all worth it. I don’t think there’s anything like coming home to that one person that knows you best and has a big smile on her face because she has been wanting to see you all day.
5. THE NIGHTMARISH FINANCIAL INVESTMENT THAT COMES WITH GETTING MARRIED
Women tend to dream about the fairy tale wedding, but men think about the nightmarish wedding expense(s). This is very true; men really don’t dream about the wedding day. It is all an expense to them. Besides, how many people do you know who have spent huge money on their wedding day and ended up divorced? TOO MANY! Men think about this constantly and find it to be foolish, but will do it if their bride insists.

Bottom line is; marriage is a beautiful thing. Life is worth sharing with a special person, and marriage offers you a platform to have that for the longer term. There’s nothing scary about marriage. Guys, find your special someone, get married, have kids, and grow old together!


And oh…Compliments of the season to all of you, our esteemed readers.

Jose Mourinho happy with Chelsea performance

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Jose Mourinho has said that is is happy with Chelsea’s performance in their 2-0 win over West Ham United earlier this afternoon.
John Terry and Diego Costa scored the goals to keep the Stamford Bridge side clear at the top of the Premier League table.
The manager told Sky Sports News: “We played a very good game against a very difficult opponent. When we scored we had the game always under control. In the last part of the game they had a fantastic action by Morgan Amalfitano, it was a little lucky for us but I am happy with the way we played against a very difficult defensive side.
“We coped very well with the direct football and dealt with a difficult player like Andy Carroll. The team is stable. The bench is good so when I bring players on they give me what the team needs at that time. I am really happy. We are doing very well.”
Chelsea travel to Southampton on Sunday.

Source: Sportsmole.co.uk

Angel di Maria suffers new injury but four stars set to return against Tottenham

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Manchester United were forced to face Newcastle without Angel Di Maria on Boxing Day after the Argentine was injured in training.
United said on their website that their record signing was injured during a Christmas Eve training session and Louis van Gaal confirmed the news ahead of kick-off.
“Di Maria has injured himself at the last training session,” Van Gaal said.
The Argentine only returned from injury at Aston Villa on December 20 after sitting on the sidelines for three weeks with a hamstring problem.
But Van Gaal has been handed a boost ahead of his trip to White Hart Lane on December 28 as Ander Herrera, Marouane Fellaini, Marcos Rojo and Luke Shaw prepare to return to first-team action before the New Year.
Daley Blind is expected back for the second gameweek in 2015 but no return date has been set for Di Maria, who hasn’t played a full 90 minutes in the league for United since victory over Arsenal in late November.
Source:  Standard.co.uk

Burnley 0-1 Liverpool: Raheem Sterling fires Liverpool to win

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Raheem Sterling scored the only goal of the match as Liverpool secured a 1-0 win over Burnley at Turf Moor in the Premier League this afternoon.
Raheem Sterling was on target early on, but the midfielder had been flagged for offside well before he got his shot away, ruling out the finish.
The home side had a decent chance early on when Danny Ings was left with time and space in the box, but the striker’s finish was kept out by the post.
Brendan Rodgers was forced to make an early change when Brad Jones aggravated a knock that he had picked up in the warmup, forcing the manager to bring on Simon Mignolet.
Liverpool started to dominate possession as the first half progressed, but Adam Lallana could not beat the keeper after being set up by a Steven Gerrard through-ball.
Scott Arfield came close just before half time, but the striker’s powerful finish was blocked by Lucas, who was back to help Mignolet.
Liverpool continued to see more of the ball at the start of the second half, but created few chances against Sean Dyche’s men.
The visitors eventually broke the deadlock though when Philippe Coutinho launched a high ball forward for Sterling, who rounded the keeper before tapping in.
Mignolet came under pressure as Burnley attempted to get back on level terms, but Kieran Trippier’s cross was headed into the side-netting by Michael Keane.
Rickie Lambert though that he had put the win beyond doubt when he chipped in from a cross, but the substitute was a yard offside as the ball was played in.
Ings came close down the other end a few moments later with a rare second-half chance for the hosts, but he was unable to force a save from Mignolet.

Source: Sportsmole

Manchester United 3-1 Newcastle: Wayne Rooney brace guides the Red Devils to victory

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A brace from Wayne Rooney and a strike from Robin van Persie has guided Manchester United to a comfortable 3-1 win over Newcastle United in their Boxing Day match at Old Trafford.
The Magpies had a good chance to open the scoring the 12th minute as Adam Armstrong beat his man down the right and crossed in for the unmarked Ayoze Perez, but the striker missed ball completely with an attempted volley.
Newcastle had a great shout for a penalty turned down by referee Mike Jones as Juan Mata appeared to clip the legs of Yoan Gouffran as he raided into the box in a surging move.
The Red Devils immediately pressed at the opposite end as Van Persie was released by a ball over the top of the Newcastle defence. The striker rounded Jak Alnwick, but his strike from a tight ankle hit the side netting.
Daryl Janmaat came close to firing his side into the lead with a powerful drive from the edge of the area, but his strike was well saved by David de Gea.
The Spaniard’s stop proved to be crucial as United went ahead in the 23 minute as Mata picked out the run of Radamel Falcao over the top and the forward did extremely well to slide the ball back to Rooney, who was left with a simple tap in.
United doubled their lead as Rooney notched his second goal of the game when he latched onto a through ball from Juan Mata and slotted the ball past Alnwick into the bottom corner.
In the second half, Louis van Gaal’s side put the game out of Newcastle’s reach with their third goal as Rooney lifted a pinpoint cross into the box for the head of Van Persie, who found the bottom corner.
The Red Devils came close to adding a fourth goal when they were awarded a free kick right on the edge of the box. Rooney lifted the ball over the top of the wall, but his strike had just too much power and skimmed the roof of the net.
Perez came close to getting a goal back for his side when he raided down the right and cut inside into the box, but his strike towards the near post was saved by the feet of De Gea.

Newcastle were handed the chance to score a consolation goal when they were awarded a penalty late in the game, which was converted by Papiss Cisse as he found the top corner from the spot.

WBA 1-3 Man City: Impressive first half sees Manchester City coast to victory

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Manchester City have stayed hot on the heels of Chelsea at the top of the Premier League with a comfortable 3-1 victory at West Bromwich Albion this afternoon.

All three City goals came in the first half as the Premier League champions coasted through the final 45 minutes despite a late consolation for the hosts.
Ben Foster gifted Man City the lead inside the first 10 minutes as he dropped a cross at the feet of Fernando, who lifted the ball over the prone goalkeeper before rifling home from close range.

Four minutes after Man City had gone a goal ahead, Yaya Toure made it 2-0 from the spot after Joleon Lescott clumsily brought down David Silva inside the area.
10 minutes before the break, Silva put the game beyond the reach of West Brom with a curling finish inside the far post with City’s superior quality shining through once more.
After the break, the Baggies showed more attacking intent, but that in turn allowed City more space on the counter attack and Navas sent a low shot across the face of goal in the 52nd minute that rolled just wide.
West Brom had chances of their own though, and Silvestre Varela volleyed wide before James Morrison saw his 18-yard strike tipped behind by a sprawling Hart.
Lescott should have made amends for conceding a penalty against his former side, but the central defender headed over from Chris Brunt’s 74th-minute corner.
Brown Ideye grabbed a late consolation for the Baggies with his first Premier League goal in the 86th minute as he bundled the ball home after Hart dropped a routine catch, but City held on to stay within three points of Chelsea.

Source: Sportsmole

Arsenal 2 – 1 QPR : Olivier Giroud sees red as Sanchez drags Gunners to thrilling victory

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Ten-man Arsenal have held on to see off Queens Park Rangers 2-1 at the Emirates Stadium to get their top-four hopes back on track.
It looked like the home side were going to take an early lead when Arsenal won a penalty less than 10 minutes in after Alexis Sanchez was brought down by Armand Traore.
However, Sanchez’s spot kick lacked power, leaving Rob Green with a comfortable stop to his left, keeping the sides level.
The Gunners got a free kick from a dangerous position with just under half an hour gone, but Green once more got across to palm Olivier Giroud’s curling effort clear.
QPR started to see more of the ball as the half progressed, but the hosts broke the deadlock shortly before the break when Kieran Gibbs crossed the ball in for Sanchez to head past Green.
Steve Caulker almost got the visitors, who have no points away from home so far this season, back on level terms, but his header was just wide after he fought his way past Per Mertesacker.
QPR were given a real route back into the game less than 10 minutes after the restart when Giroud was shown a straight red card after reacting angrily to Nedum Onuoha’s challenge, leaving the referee who was situated just a yard away from the incident with little choice.
Buoyed by the additional man, the R’s pushed for an equaliser, although having made a decent shooting position substitute Junior Hoilett saw his effort end closer to the corner flag than the back of the net.
Arsenal managed to dig in and add a second goal shortly after to give themselves some breathing space, with Tomas Rosicky’s deflected shot getting the better of Green following some fine individual play by Sanchez.
Danny Welbeck could have made certain of the points when the ball was cut back to him 20 minutes from time, only for his effort to end down the throat of Green who kept it out.
For the second time in the evening Harry Redknapp’s side were given a glimmer of hope when awarded a penalty following Mathieu Debuchy’s challenge on Hoilett inside the box, although replays showed that the Frenchman won the ball cleanly.
Charlie Austin tucked away the spot kick for his 10th goal in nine outings for Rangers, and that led to a late bombardment from the visitors.
Niko Kranjcar saw his effort fly over the bar, before Mauricio Isla saw his goalbound header blocked away by Mathieu Flamini as the clock ticked down.
There could have been a dramatic twist in added on time as Bobby Zamora went down under the challenge of Gibbs, although the referee waved away appeals with the Gunners seeing out the remaining time.

Source: Sportsmole.co.uk

Bale is wrong, La Liga’s not the best – Mourinho

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    Chelsea boss Jose Mourinho has rejected Gareth Bale’s claims that La Liga is the best league in the world, suggesting the Premier League holds that title.
    The Portuguese spent three seasons with Real Madrid, winning the top flight once, before returning to Stamford Bridge in 2013 for a second stint.
    That same summer, Bale swapped Tottenham for the Santiago Bernabeu in a €100 million move and impressed in his debut season as Carlo Ancelotti’s men lifted the Champions League and Copa del Rey.
    Despite Bale’s proclamations that he is playing for the best club and within the best league in the world, Mourinho thinks the overwhelming domination of Barcelona, Real Madrid and Atletico Madrid weaken Spanish football.
    “[Bale said that] because he’s there,” the former Inter and Porto coach, whose Blues are currently top of the Premier League, told BT Sport. “You have to accept what Gareth says, but I was also there.
    “I won La Liga, I lost La Liga, but I [also] won La Liga, and I know clearly the differences between La Liga and the Premier League.
    “To go to matches knowing that you are going to win for sure is not the best thing. In Spain everybody knows that two teams are top of the world. A third team like Atletico is doing wonderfully well and they won last year, which is not normal.

    AnUnpleasant Surprise for Black Women Married to White Men: Having Whites Think You’re a Prostitute

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    Maureen Evans Arthurs and husband Jaime
    Maureen Evans Arthurs and husband
    For Maryland native Maureen Evans Arthurs, getting mistaken for a prostitute due to her interracial marriage is a normal occurrence.
    Arthurs, who has been married to her husband, Jamie, for over ten years, wrote via the Washington Post that it’s “not uncommon” for people to get the wrong idea about their relationship simply because of their different skin colors.
    Her piece in the Post revealed an infrequently explored aspect of how the mainstream community’s racism can impact interracial relationships.
    She wrote that it first occurred around four years ago at an event in California. A man offered to buy her a drink while she was standing with her husband. When she said No, he asked her “How much?”
    The mother of one said that at first she didn’t understand what he meant by that. When it finally hit her, she couldn’t believe what he was implying.
    “I was speechless, angry and embarrassed,” she wrote.
    That was the first time she encountered a situation of that nature, but it wasn’t the last. She wrote that several men approached her at an event just last month.
    She claimed that one of them said: “You’re on the wrong arm, sweetie, I wish I could go home with you,” and another propositioned, “We have this whole place to ourselves, it’ll be a shame if we don’t maximize our time here and slip away.”
    The situation even made her doubt herself and how she appears to strangers.
    “Here I was, a tall, dark-skinned, thin, twenty-something woman on the arm of a white man in his mid-thirties,” she wrote. “How mismatched and odd, I thought, we may have looked to some.”
    Arthurs situation is not unique: she writes that nearly all of her friends in interracial relationships have had similar experiences at some point.
    In September, Ebony editor Jamilah Lemieux wanted to see just how many Black women are affected by situations like this. She tweeted “RT if you are a Black woman (trans or cis) and have been assumed to be a sex worker by a White man.”
    As of yesterday her tweet has had over 150 retweets and been favorited 58 times. Women tweeted back with their own experiences.
    One woman wrote “Happened to me 17 years ago as a newlywed in Chicago when I was with my white husband, CPD (Chicago Police Department) stopped us. So humiliating.”
    Another user tweeted “I was once hideously ostracized at a Hollywood birthday party. Only black woman. They REFUSED to believe I wasn’t a stripper.”
    Even a white man felt the need to share his experience tweeting “My wife is from Haiti, together 16 yrs. I’m affectionate in public. Sit by her side in restaurants. And STILL get idiots.”

    Are You Setting Your Relationship Bar Too Low?

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    Photo Credit:  Blanc et Noir via flickr
    Photo Credit: Blanc et Noir via flickr
    Although it is popular to accuse couples of setting themselves up for disaster by expecting too much from marriage, for many of us the problem is exactly the opposite: we don’t set our sights high enough.
    In keeping our expectations low we may hope to prevent disappointment, but this strategy holds some serious dangers. Limited expectations generate a modest vision of what is possible and they can easily become self-fulfilling prophecies.
    The greater the possibilities that we envision, the higher we are likely to set our goals. Where we aim has less to do with what we are actually capable of achieving than what we believe to be attainable or realistic.
    Prior to Roger Banister’s breaking of the 4-minute mile in 1954, it was deemed impossible for a human being to achieve that feat. Almost immediately after his accomplishment, other runners joined the sub-4-minute-mile club. Within a decade, several hundred runners had done what ten years previously had been seen as impossible. Such is the power of expectations.
    When Linda and I got married in 1972, I deliberately set my sights low. All the better to avoid the disappointment that I expected if I hoped for anything more than a comfortable arrangement in which we got along reasonably well and didn’t fight too much. Talk about low expectations.
    Having observed very few examples of thriving long-term relationships, I approached marriage somewhat unenthusiastically. Truth be told, from my perspective, the idea of a good marriage was an oxymoron. Yet for reasons that I couldn’t at the time quite fathom, despite my resistance to it, I seemed drawn to marriage like a moth to a flame.
    My game plan for resolving this paradox was to develop a strategy of limited engagement. All the better to minimize the chances of disappointment and suffering. Unfortunately, not only did my strategy fail to prevent disappointment, but it left me frequently feeling resentful and frustrated.
    What I hadn’t factored in to the equation was that my head wasn’t the only part of me that was engaged.  As Blaise Pascal famously said, “The heart has its reasons of which reason knows nothing,” and my heart had its own agenda. Ultimately, it insisted on having its say…

    5 KINDS OF PEOPLE YOU MUST NEVER MARRY!

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    1091Marriage always is a different ball game from dating. When you’re dating for the fun of it, some things can be tolerated, but if you’re dating someone with the thought of marrying them someday, then you must be very careful in the choice of partner you make because whatever decisions you take can have a long-lasting effect on your life. You must ensure you avoid certain kinds of people so your marriage turns out just as well as you want it to. To help you make your choice with much more ease, I have put this piece together. I hope you find it helpful.

    1. MR/MISS ‘I’M MORE INTERESTED IN YOUR BODY THAN IN YOUR PERSONALITY’
    There’s nothing wrong with your lover or partner loving and complimenting your body and sexual prowess, absolutely nothing wrong with that, but if that’s all they ever tell you, then, you should beware of them because it implies that they only see you as a sexual object, and nothing more. A person who truly cares about you doesn’t just compliment your outer beauty alone, they also compliment your personality because they’re in love with it just as much. Love isn’t partial, it comes complete and whole.
    2. MR/MISS VAIN AND MATERIALISTIC
    There’s nothing wrong with wanting to acquire wealth and property, but there should be a clear line between moderation and extremism. When someone seeks wealth at all costs, he/she can go to any length to achieve that objective, and that includes getting into all sorts of trouble and illegal activities. People like that can be a very bad influence on you and your reputation. Also, they usually do not care about anyone or anything as long as they get what they want, they’ll even put you at risk if that’s what it takes to get what they want. You certainly don’t want someone like this in your life for the longer term, trust me!
    3. MR/MISS UNCONTROLLABLE ANGER
    Everyone gets angry every once in a while, that is quite natural. However if your partner is in the habit of destroying property in their anger moments, it is no longer anger, but rage, and I suggest you ditch him/her because sooner or later, they might take it all out on you. No sane human being destroys property bought with hard-earned money just because they’re angry. A man or woman who has anger issues is irresponsible and is a potential danger to you and your kids.
    4. MR/MISS ‘KNOW IT ALL’
    Relationships aren’t just for sex and physical satisfaction alone, they’re meant to help people learn from each other and gain mental improvement. If your partner never listens or take corrections from you, and is always trying to impose his own ideas on you, run as far away from him/her as possible because someone like that hasn’t an iota of respect for you and what you represent. Marriage with someone of that nature will bring nothing but misery to you.
    5. MR/MISS ‘I HAVE NO PLANS FOR THE FUTURE’
    Of course they won’t literally tell you they have no plans for the future. I doubt anyone is that daft. Lol. However, with a person’s actions and general attitude toward life, you’ll be able to easily tell how seriously they take their future. For instance, if your partner (man or woman) has no job, and isn’t seeking to engage himself or herself in something productive, and never discusses his future plans or projections with you, such a person isn’t serious about life, and you have no business being with someone like that in the first place…run, and run for your life.



    P.S: Never get into marriage with any of the sort of people listed above in hope that you can ‘change them’. People have tried it in the past, and it always never ends well. Some people are just incorrigible. If he/she doesn’t love you enough to turn a new leaf before marriage, they might not change after.

    TOP 6 LIES MEN TELL JUST TO GET INTO YOUR PANTS

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    If a man really wants a woman he perceives he can’t get the easy way, he usually cooks up different stories he can tell her to win her heart (more like deceive her into giving in to his desires), and that is why women must be more careful in dealing with men. When a guy comes your way, be sure to access him properly, lest you fall for one of the following lies…the top 6 lies men tell just to get into your pants. Read, and thank me later…

    1. I’M SINGLE…AND READY TO MINGLE
    When a man desperately wants to get in bed with you, he’s going to do everything he can to achieve that purpose, and that includes lying about his relationship status. If he tells you he has a girlfriend, chances are you’ll run in the other direction. One of the common lies men tell is that they’re single when they’re actually in a relationship. Sometimes you have to take his word for it, but if you take the time to do some digging of your own, you might find out something that will kill-off any feeling you have for him.
    2. I WON’T TELL ANYONE
    Sometimes, you like a guy, and wanna hook up with him, but somehow, you have doubts about his ability to keep secrets. Now, being the smart man that he is, he’ll want to delete your doubts. He’ll promise you that he’ll keep your romance a secret, but he’ll end up bragging to his friends. Once he blabs to one person, it can quickly become public knowledge, and it won’t stay secret for long.
    3. YOU’RE AMAZING/YOU’RE JUST MY TYPE

    Ladies, beware when a man constantly showers you with compliments. Of course they’re genuine sometimes, but often times, they’re nothing but a ploy to get you in bed. If he feels like he has to butter you up before you’ll kiss him or have sex with him, he’ll say whatever he has to say. He’ll tell you you’re beautiful, and that you’re so ‘marryable’ (if there’s such a word). He might even tell you that he loves you. If you’re anywhere near a bed, don’t always take his word for it.
    4. I EARN BIG
    This lie is often used on women who are more attracted to men with higher incomes. If a guy perceives that you’re easily impressed by a fat wallet and fancy things, he’ll use that weakness against you. He’ll lie about his job; how much he earns, and what he does for a living. He’ll tell you that he makes six figures, or that he recently got promoted. He’ll say whatever he can to appear more marketable. There are women who just fall prey to this sort of lie, not because they are attracted to money, but because they met the wrong guy.
    5. I LOVE CHILDREN…CAN’T WAIT TO HAVE MINE
    If a man’s really desperate, he’ll also lie about something as important as children. I mean, what do women love more than babies? In an attempt to impress you, he’ll make you believe that he loves babies, and that he wants to get married and have kids as soon as possible. That way, you’ll think of him as a potential mate, and won’t mind jumping into bed with him. This is one of the most deceitful ways men use to get into a woman’s pants.
    6. I JUST WANT TO CUDDLE
    It’s common knowledge that women like cuddling a lot. They love to feel a man’s body pressed against their own, and most times, when they do it, they do it for the sake of it, and nothing more. However, men rarely cuddle for the sake of it. If a man wants to cuddle with you, chances are he wants to have sex in the process…so ladies, always be wary. It’s possible that he’s romantic, but most times, he’s using cuddling as an excuse to get into your pants.

    So ladies, BEWARE!

    DO YOU KNOW THAT QUARRELLING WITH YOUR PARTNER HAS AN ADVERSE EFFECT ON YOUR BODY? 7 RESEARCHES THAT PROVE SO

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    I hate the saying that it’s okay for partners to argue; when you feel it’s okay to argue then you would argue with your partner. After an argument, you would feel it’s okay and then another and another and another, till arguments become a usual part of the relationship.
    Yes, you may reach a point where friction would come between you and your partner, it might be normal really, but it’s not okay to have the ideology that it’s okay to argue with your partner, because it always starts with just one argument.
    There are various reasons backed by research where constantly arguing with your partner would bring damage to your health.
    Below are some risks that come with the territory:
    1. IT INCREASES THE RISK OF DEPRESSION
    Have you noticed that a lot of people who suffer from depression or who have even gone on to commit suicide as a result of depression usually have a frail relationship? Constantly arguing with your partner can make depression set in and once depression sets in that relationship, it could lead to a host of other health risks and habits which could cause damage to your health like alcohol and drug abuse.
    2. HIGHER MORTALITY RISK
    Arguing constantly with your partner can lead to a higher risk of premature death. A research by Danish researchers from the university of Copenhagen found that constantly argue with a partner can increase a person’s mortality risk by two or three times. The worst part is men are even more vulnerable to this.
    3. PHYSIOLOGICAL REACTION TO STRESS
    Research has also found that constantly arguing with your partner has a physiological reaction to stress which can lead to high blood pressure, and an increased risk of cardiovascular diseases.
    4. LOWERS THE IMMUNE SYSTEM
    If you notice, after a heated argument with your partner you might tend to feel exhausted. Research has found that the reason behind this is that arguing with your partner can cause stress and when the body is stressed, it believes that there is a threat that needs to be cushioned. This goes on to affect the immune system and leaves you feeling exhausted. When your immune system is down, you can be exposed to sickness and diseases
    5. COULD LEAD TO AN INCREASE IN WEIGHT AND CHOLESTEROL LEVEL
    Stress resulting from quarrelling with your partner can lead to an increase in weight and cholesterol level. When people are unhappy, there is this tendency to eat anything and this can lead to a bad eating habit. When you get to stuff yourself up with junk foods and other unhealthy foods, weight and cholesterol level could become an issue.
    6. CHILDREN SUFFER FROM THIS
    In the case of couples with kids, this also has an adverse effect on those young children. A research team from the University of Oregon has found that parents who argue in front of their babies cause them lasting damage because they are likely to suffer from stress later in life. They described infants brain as ‘highly plastic’ and found that even if a baby is asleep, hearing arguments between parents affects the way in which they process the emotional tones of voice. As a result babies from homes with conflicts display increased stress levels. It’s disturbing to see parents arguing in front of their little children.
    7. HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE
    As pointed out in the third tip, high blood pressure is a physiological stress that can result from arguing with your partner. During a heated argument with your partner, your body’s blood pressure rises because your heart starts pumping blood faster. More disturbingly, your blood pressure could remain that way after a sustained series of arguments.


    If these seven reasons aren’t enough to quit the frequent fights and arguments in your marriage and relationship, I wonder what is. Quarrelling causes more harm than good to your relationship; talk about your relationship problems in a peaceful manner rather than raising the roofs at the slightest instance.

    SHOULD MARRIAGE BE THE ULTIMATE REASON WHY WE DATE?

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    Should getting married to a person be the only reason why we enter a relationship with that person? Is it right to make marriage the ultimate goal?
    This question will definitely divide opinions and it was in fact a topic of a heated debate between my pals the last time we hanged out.
    Some argued if you are in a relationship where there is no potential for marriage, you are just wasting your time and they don’t see the need for such relationships. They argued that when we fall in love with someone, we hope to build a future with that special someone.
    They also argued a relationship without the prospects of marriage is a waste of time as it’s only based on sex and nothing more.
    The other group felt marriage shouldn’t be the reason why we date. They argued you could meet someone you want to have a relationship with but you both know you can’t get married. They argued because you can’t get married to someone shouldn’t stop you from sharing an intimate relationship with that person.
    They also argued that there are people who don’t want to get married; should such people avoid relationships because they don’t want to get married?
    We all know how such arguments end, no one really wins. LOL.
    So what do you think about this subject, should marriage be the ultimate reason why we date someone?

    Neuer: I’m not a global brand like Ballon d’Or rivals Ronaldo & Messi

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    Manuel Neuer says he is at a disadvantage in the race for this year’s Ballon d’Or as he is not a “global brand” like fellow nominees Cristiano Ronaldo and Lionel Messi.
    The Gelsenkirchen native is widely credited with revolutionising the role of the goalkeeper because of his footballing skills and the way in which he serves as a makeshift sweeper, while he is also coming off the back of a year in which he won the World Cup with Germany and the double with Bayern Munich.
    However, Neuer does not feel he has much chance of getting the better of Ronaldo or Messi, given the pair’s superstar status.

    “I’m proud just to be one of the candidates for the Ballon d’Or,” the 28-year-old told Suddeutsche Zeitung. “The other two players are global brands in their own right and maybe for that reason have an advantage.”

    Manchester United received a Christmas boost after midfielder confirms return to training

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    Manchester United’s injury crisis seems to be easing as we reach the midway point of the Premier League season.
    Red Devils midfielder Daley Blind has confirmed his return to training following a month’s spell on the sidelines with a knee injury he sustained while on international duty with the Netherlands team.
    The Dutch midfielder had started all the eight matches he was available for since his summer move from Eredivisie club Ajax. The midfielder is a key component of Louis van Gaal’s team as he can be a very versatile player, who can play in the defensive midfield role or provide cover at the left wing-back position.
    Blind confirmed on the social networking site Twitter that his recovery process is on track as he resumed training outside for the first time since his injury.
    “The football boots are back! Started training outside again, great feeling!” Blind tweeted on Tuesday.
    However, the midfielder is not expected to return to first-team action before January as he continues his recovery, but the Mirror report claims that the former Ajax midfielder could return for United’s FA Cup fixture against Yeovil Town or their Premier League fixture against Southampton on 11th January.
    Meanwhile, the United manager has given an injury update ahead of the festive fixtures when the Old Trafford club will face Newcastle United, Tottenham and Stoke City in the space of seven days.
    Van Gaal revealed that Marouane Fellaini is still sidelined, but he hopes that Chris Smalling can return for the Boxing Day clash against the Magpies following a test on Christmas day.
    “I don’t think so, I am sorry. Maybe Smalling. Fellaini is still not available. Smalling is a question mark – I have to look tomorrow but it’s always like that. For a few players it [this period] is fun because they are recovering quickly, but you also have players who are not recovering so quickly, so I have to rotate. My problem is I have a lot of injured players. That is the problem with these,” Van Gaal told United’s official site

    MUst Read: 9 Things A Guy Can Do For A Girl That Are More Intimate Than S-3x

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    Whenever we speak of intimacy, the first thing that comes into people’s minds is s*x. I don’t know about you, but the last time I had intimate s*x was… hell, I can’t even remember.

    S*x can be intimate, but more often than not it isn’t. Intimacy is closeness, and although we certainly get physically close during s*x, mentally we can be miles apart.

    True intimacy relies on knowledge — on knowing people just as well, if not better, than they know themselves. It’s not difficult for men to become more intimate with their women.

    Not as difficult as one might think… but you are going to have to make the effort. Here are a few things you’ll want to try:



    1. Tell her she’s beautiful.

    There is no shortage of men who are willing to compliment women on a daily basis. The difference between them and you, however, is that when you tell the woman you love that she’s beautiful, it isn’t with ulterior motives.

    You don’t tell a thousand women whatever they want to hear just to sleep with them. You are telling the woman you love that, in that moment, she is the most beautiful thing you’ve ever seen.

    When a woman knows you find her so positively stunning — inside and out — she’ll never have to worry about you straying or your feelings faltering. Trust is the most intimate thing two people can share.

    2. Write her a love letter.

    There’s plenty that can be said without words, but every woman wants to hear how much you love her.

    Give her a physical thing that she can go back and reference whenever she misses you or feels uncertain of your love, and she’ll feel much more secure — and happier.

    You don’t have to be a good writer to write a good love letter. Just put into words — the best you can — why she means the world to you. Don’t type it; write it by hand so that when she looks at the words, she feels that it’s you who wrote them.

    3. Take a vacation together.

    One of the best ways to become more intimate with your lover, to get to know and understand her more deeply, is to take a long trip together. Not just a weekend — two weeks minimum.

    Intimacy is all about getting close to the other, and there is no better way to understand a woman better than to throw yourselves into an irregular or uncommon situation.

    People are very good at keeping up façades when they’re feeling comfortable, when they’re surrounded by familiar surroundings.

    Take that individual and place her in the middle of the unknown, the inexperienced, and you get to see her at her most intimate and basic levels — the level at which she is forced to take in novel information and then use that information to make real time judgements and decisions.

    4. Take care of her when she’s sick and allow her to take care of you when you’re sick.

    If you want to become more intimate with your partner, then you are going to have to accept her, not only at her best, but also at her worst. I’m sorry ladies, but no woman — or man for that matter — looks good when she’s coughing up a lung.

    When your woman is sick, she is — quite literally — at her most vulnerable. Think about the way you feel and act when you physically feel horrible. I’d bet my life that you aren’t the jolly, pleasant person you usually are.



    That’s why letting her see you when you’re at your most vulnerable is also extremely intimate. You can see how far she’s willing to go for you, and how much of you you’re willing to show.

    5. Sleep with her (without having s*x).

    It’s easy to share a bed with a woman, whether you love her or not. The harder part is not making a move when the beautiful woman next to you says she isn’t ready or she isn’t in the mood.

    Embracing a woman tenderly with no intention of taking it further means your feelings extend past the normal libidinal urges you suffer from. Cuddling a woman because you love her means needing to be close to her because it makes you happy.

    This kind of happiness lasts more than a night — it lasts for a lifetime.

    6. Stare into each other’s eyes for extended periods of time.

    There is little in the world that makes us feel more uncomfortable than extended periods of eye contact. They say that the eyes are the windows to our souls — and I don’t think they, whomever they may be, are wrong.

    Looking deep into your lover’s eyes most likely won’t show you her deepest inner secrets, but it will show you how comfortable the two of you are with each other.

    The longer you’re able to stare, the more comfortable the two of you are. If you want to break down whatever barriers are left in your relationship, focus on more eye contact.

    7. Meet the family.

    A person is not just a person. She’s a combination of all the people she was influenced by growing up — primarily, her family. We base all our relationships in life on the relationships we have with our family members.

    They are our oldest relationships, and because we formed them in our earliest years, they greatly shaped the way we perceive interpersonal interaction and relationships.

    You can often learn more about your partner from the people she surrounded herself with than you can learn from her herself.



    8. Spend the holidays together.

    Human beings are creatures that focus much of their energy on holding on to traditions. Sadly, this makes progress incredibly difficult as no one especially enjoys change. However, there is much to be said about the importance of healthy traditions.

    Keep in mind that the traditions she has now are more than likely the traditions that she’ll want to pass down to you and the children you have together.

    It’s always a good idea to spend time with the people you want to get to know better in moments of tradition and celebration. It allows for an understanding that few other instances allow for.

    9. Absolutely nothing.

    The most intimate thing two people can ever do is absolutely nothing. Consider how difficult it is for most of us to do nothing at all on our own. We feel restless, uncomfortable, bored.

    Now, imagine lying next to the love of your life and not doing anything other than sucking in the reality around you, breathing in the moment and each other. Intimacy doesn’t just involve action. It doesn’t just involve the attainment of information or better understanding.

    The purest form of intimacy is simply living together — not living in the sense of sharing an apartment, but living in the sense of breathing and listening to your heart beat.

    If you and the woman you love feel comfortable doing nothing at all together then you’ll likely feel comfortable with just about everything else.
     

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