MUst Read: 9 Things A Guy Can Do For A Girl That Are More Intimate Than S-3x

Whenever we speak of intimacy, the first thing that comes into people’s minds is s*x. I don’t know about you, but the last time I had intimate s*x was… hell, I can’t even remember.

S*x can be intimate, but more often than not it isn’t. Intimacy is closeness, and although we certainly get physically close during s*x, mentally we can be miles apart.

True intimacy relies on knowledge — on knowing people just as well, if not better, than they know themselves. It’s not difficult for men to become more intimate with their women.

Not as difficult as one might think… but you are going to have to make the effort. Here are a few things you’ll want to try:

1. Tell her she’s beautiful.

There is no shortage of men who are willing to compliment women on a daily basis. The difference between them and you, however, is that when you tell the woman you love that she’s beautiful, it isn’t with ulterior motives.

You don’t tell a thousand women whatever they want to hear just to sleep with them. You are telling the woman you love that, in that moment, she is the most beautiful thing you’ve ever seen.

When a woman knows you find her so positively stunning — inside and out — she’ll never have to worry about you straying or your feelings faltering. Trust is the most intimate thing two people can share.

2. Write her a love letter.

There’s plenty that can be said without words, but every woman wants to hear how much you love her.

Give her a physical thing that she can go back and reference whenever she misses you or feels uncertain of your love, and she’ll feel much more secure — and happier.

You don’t have to be a good writer to write a good love letter. Just put into words — the best you can — why she means the world to you. Don’t type it; write it by hand so that when she looks at the words, she feels that it’s you who wrote them.

3. Take a vacation together.

One of the best ways to become more intimate with your lover, to get to know and understand her more deeply, is to take a long trip together. Not just a weekend — two weeks minimum.

Intimacy is all about getting close to the other, and there is no better way to understand a woman better than to throw yourselves into an irregular or uncommon situation.

People are very good at keeping up façades when they’re feeling comfortable, when they’re surrounded by familiar surroundings.

Take that individual and place her in the middle of the unknown, the inexperienced, and you get to see her at her most intimate and basic levels — the level at which she is forced to take in novel information and then use that information to make real time judgements and decisions.

4. Take care of her when she’s sick and allow her to take care of you when you’re sick.

If you want to become more intimate with your partner, then you are going to have to accept her, not only at her best, but also at her worst. I’m sorry ladies, but no woman — or man for that matter — looks good when she’s coughing up a lung.

When your woman is sick, she is — quite literally — at her most vulnerable. Think about the way you feel and act when you physically feel horrible. I’d bet my life that you aren’t the jolly, pleasant person you usually are.



That’s why letting her see you when you’re at your most vulnerable is also extremely intimate. You can see how far she’s willing to go for you, and how much of you you’re willing to show.

5. Sleep with her (without having s*x).

It’s easy to share a bed with a woman, whether you love her or not. The harder part is not making a move when the beautiful woman next to you says she isn’t ready or she isn’t in the mood.

Embracing a woman tenderly with no intention of taking it further means your feelings extend past the normal libidinal urges you suffer from. Cuddling a woman because you love her means needing to be close to her because it makes you happy.

This kind of happiness lasts more than a night — it lasts for a lifetime.

6. Stare into each other’s eyes for extended periods of time.

There is little in the world that makes us feel more uncomfortable than extended periods of eye contact. They say that the eyes are the windows to our souls — and I don’t think they, whomever they may be, are wrong.

Looking deep into your lover’s eyes most likely won’t show you her deepest inner secrets, but it will show you how comfortable the two of you are with each other.

The longer you’re able to stare, the more comfortable the two of you are. If you want to break down whatever barriers are left in your relationship, focus on more eye contact.

7. Meet the family.

A person is not just a person. She’s a combination of all the people she was influenced by growing up — primarily, her family. We base all our relationships in life on the relationships we have with our family members.

They are our oldest relationships, and because we formed them in our earliest years, they greatly shaped the way we perceive interpersonal interaction and relationships.

You can often learn more about your partner from the people she surrounded herself with than you can learn from her herself.

8. Spend the holidays together.

Human beings are creatures that focus much of their energy on holding on to traditions. Sadly, this makes progress incredibly difficult as no one especially enjoys change. However, there is much to be said about the importance of healthy traditions.

Keep in mind that the traditions she has now are more than likely the traditions that she’ll want to pass down to you and the children you have together.

It’s always a good idea to spend time with the people you want to get to know better in moments of tradition and celebration. It allows for an understanding that few other instances allow for.

9. Absolutely nothing.

The most intimate thing two people can ever do is absolutely nothing. Consider how difficult it is for most of us to do nothing at all on our own. We feel restless, uncomfortable, bored.

Now, imagine lying next to the love of your life and not doing anything other than sucking in the reality around you, breathing in the moment and each other. Intimacy doesn’t just involve action. It doesn’t just involve the attainment of information or better understanding.

The purest form of intimacy is simply living together — not living in the sense of sharing an apartment, but living in the sense of breathing and listening to your heart beat.

If you and the woman you love feel comfortable doing nothing at all together then you’ll likely feel comfortable with just about everything else.

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This is How the Grizzly Accident that Claimed the Life of Juja Capital Center MD, Mike Gathecha, Happened

The latest news reports reveal of the untimely death of one of Nairobi’s most renowned businessmen and auto enthusiasts Mike Gathecha. He may not have been a household name but his business exploits have put in the map as one of the shrewdest business persons in Nairobi.

Gathecha died when the car he was driving hit a stationary lorry at Nairobi’s Roysambu area. The accident caused severe traffic for hours. Photos posted on social media have revealed that the accident was a horrible one with his Toyota Crown having been smashed very badly.

Gathecha was indeed a famous name in the party scenes. He was the managing director of the Juja Capital Center, a renowned restaurant, lounge, bar and tyre center. This is among his many other businesses. He is also said to have business partners who hold high political offices. Juja Capital Center confirmed his passing and twitter has been ablaze with messages of condolences

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Bad News: Nigerian Business Woman Killed Herself In New York, Titi Branch Commits Suicide

Dec 20, 2014 – Pictures: Nigerian Businesswoman Committed Suicide In New York, Titi Branch Killed Herself After Depression Battle

A New York-based woman born to a Nigerian father and a Japanese mother has died.

The lady identified as Titi Branch took her own life on the 4th of December 2014 after a long time battle with depression that started following a heart break.

A source who intimated NaijaGists.com today said Titi was born in the US and her father is from Ekiti state.

The deceased, a successful owner of a natural hair product graduated from University of Maryland.

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Until her death, she operated a Natural Hair care Salon in New York with her sister Miko Branch.
Titi died at age 45.
May God grant her family the fortitude to bear her untimely loss.

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Secret to Success For Women Begins With Inner Peace

As a woman on the path to success, we expect to feel a sense of achievement when we see that we have reached the top — the place where we wanted to be. We might wonder, How does it look from there? Will the world and people around you look more beautiful? Will the journey to the top be pleasant and memorable?
For many women I have met, this journey has certainly not been easy. It is not always a journey of mutual support, collaboration and friendliness. Instead, you have to be careful about who is conspiring to push you down. There are many challenges, not just due to gender bias, but also due to jealousy from other women.
This kind of a journey can be very stressful and takes its toll on our body and mind. Moreover, many women impose limitations on themselves, believing that they are not fully qualified, and often talk themselves out of achieving their potential.
So, what do successful women do right? I believe that successful women are able to find their inner strength to make the most of opportunities — be it at the workplace or at home. The revered spiritual leader Sri Sri Ravi Shankar says that one who skillfully manages the challenges that life poses is successful. Here are some pointers:
• Commitment - One failure can lead to another success later. We should not be deterred by failures, but learn from them.
• Time - It is not sufficient to just invest money to nurture or develop something. We have to give it our time and attention.
• Setting an Example - A successful woman doesn’t just show you the way; she walks the talk.
• Teamwork - Making others feel involved; inspiring participation and contribution.
• Silence - Nurture quietude and calmness.
• Reflection - Setting aside time to sit quietly at the end of the day, looking back at all the day’s activities, and seeing where we made a difference. Reminding ourselves of the successes can inspire us to do more.
A woman has to balance her work, family, relationships — all of these and more on the road to success. When you realize that you are multifaceted and multidimensional, you know you can handle different roles in life. This realization dawns when you are in a calm and serene state of mind, which can be achieved through meditation.
I find that meditation can help us be more productive. It is my experience that when you meditate, a task that would take four hours to do gets done in two hours. I believe it is necessary that we give prime time to ourselves — to relax and rejuvenate, to realize that we have so much more potential that we think we do. Otherwise, we limit our capabilities

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Could Mindful Meditation be Right For You?

Mindfulness meditation. Chances are that you’ve either heard or seen (or rolled your eyes at) these words in recent months, as studies, celebrity endorsements, and even apps continue to make headlines. Based on Buddhist traditions and described as “the non-judgmental awareness of experiences in the present moment” — a skill which claims to offer inner equanimity once purposefully honed – mindfulness meditation is having a moment in the West.
Its lessons are those trite, self-righteous sayings we grow up hearing precisely when we don’t want to: Things are only as good as you make them out to be. Face your fears. Be in the moment. Try looking at it another way. They are the aphoristic phrases we find inside fortune cookies or on the tags of Yogi tea bags that seem to have no feasible application when it comes to the mess of real life. As they say: Easier said than done.
And yet, people are doing it. Millions of them, whether as part of a medical treatment, in group classes, or alone in the privacy of their homes. But like with regular juicing or weekly acupuncture appointments, the question isn’t whether beneficial physiological change is possible, but rather, how far can such change go to help us?
It goes without saying that some time to ourselves, quietly sitting and slowly breathing, will prove to calm us down after a stressful day, but when it comes to life’s most mentally taxing episodes — death, disaster, disease — how much good can mindfulness meditation really do?.

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Take One Minute in the Morning to Transform Your Day

What’s the very first thing you do when you wake up? If your answer is “check my email,” “curse my alarm clock,” or “start making a to-do list,” you are missing the chance to begin your day with the sense of peace and purpose that will give you focus. And it just takes one minute.
First, what not to do: no email. It can wait until after breakfast. In fact, your bedroom should be a sanctuary, free from anything that connects you to the outside world. No smartphones, BlackBerrys or iPads. No television. Just privacy, comfort and quiet.
And no exhaustion. As Huffington Post founder Arianna Huffington has explained so compellingly, we cannot shortchange our need for sleep.
So, now you are rested and it is time to wake up. Take one minute to open yourself to your day. Begin with a 30-second stretch to help your body adjust from sleep to being awake.
And while you are stretching, think of one thing you are really looking forward to between right now and when you come back to bed tonight. Will you start something you’ve been looking forward to or finish a project you are glad to see end? See a friend? Call a family member? Go somewhere you enjoy? Listen to a favorite podcast on the commute?
If you cannot think of one element of the day that will give you a feeling of happiness or satisfaction, create one. Decide that this will be the day to wear that scarf or piece of jewelry or fragrance you were saving for a special occasion. Resolve to reach out to someone you have missed. Get that exercise you told yourself you did not have time for. Look ahead to make sure the rest of the mornings this week will give you something to look forward to.
Now, think of one person you really love and just take 15 seconds to focus on those feelings. Not about how that person feels about you or what you need to tell that person to do or what you wish he or she would say. Just focus on the feeling of unconditional love and the elements that make that person so endearing…

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How to Prepare Financially for a Natural Disaster

Rob Rumley, Asst. VP and financial advisor at Morgan Stanley Wealth Management, Atlanta

My family and I recently spent a week in coastal South Carolina and for three of those days we were joined by tropical storm Andrea. In fact, the last time I vacationed there, Hurricane Katrina hit. Needless to say my family and I spent some quality time indoors putting puzzles together and playing games. Fortunately, we were safe in our hotel.
Hurricane season began on June 1st and should end in November. While many prepare for natural disasters by stocking up on necessities like water, canned goods and batteries, the process of getting finances in order tends to get overlooked during this time. Regardless of your annual income or assets, financial preparedness is critical to resuming daily life following a storm.
Over the years a few of my clients have been affected by natural disasters. Here is what I’ve learned:
• Keep important documents in ‘The Cloud.’ Keep track of your account numbers, user IDs, passwords, and important insurance documents by securely storing them — electronically online — in the cloud. Many people leave these ID and passwords on their desk. If you ever need to evacuate it’s important to have a copy of this information to be able to access all of your financial data. Online banking also enables you to pay bills and manage your accounts, should you be away from your home longer than expected.
• Keep 3-5 days of cash with you on hand. In the event that you experience power outage in your area, ATMs may be depleted or not working at all. Store this money in a safe place until it is needed.
• Don’t delay. Be sure not to hesitate in reaching out to your insurance company immediately. Depending on the severity of the storm or fire, it is possible that there may be people in the area who are ready to help concerned customers.
Others facing natural disasters—such as hurricanes, tornados, brush fires and earthquakes—are not so lucky. During the first week of May, many areas in Southern California experienced some devastating threats from brush fire. We were happy to assist our California clients who reached out to confirm their passwords and inform the team of their location. Though they were inconvenienced by an evacuation, they were quite thankful to be safe and sound.

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In a Stressful, Racist World, Thanksgiving Offers the Black Community an Opportunity to Bask in Love of Family

As the holidays approach, it is easy to get wrapped up in all the commotion of shopping and Black Friday sales, but it’s also clear that Thanksgiving might just be the most important holiday of the year for the Black community in America.
“Its a time to get together and give God thanks for what he has done for you through the year from January to November and its just a time for family gathering,” said 86-year-old Georgia resident and longstanding celebrator of the holiday Azzie Mae Garland.
Not only is it a time of celebration, it is a day when Black families come together without the pretense of the other big holidays; a time when family can bask in love and try to forget about all the hate and injustice that swirls around us the other 364 days of the year.
“Thanksgiving was the time when everyone tried to come together,” writer Anthony B. Pinn of the African American Lectionary wrote in his essay “Thanksgiving Day.” ”Some would drive home and others would fly home. It was about family being together. And unlike Easter, no new clothes were required. Unlike Christmas, you did not have to bring a gift. If dinner was potluck, you had to make a contribution, and that was what made the time great, too. So many gave of themselves and shared their culinary talents.”
Thanksgiving hasn’t only served as a time for Black families to come together, but for the communities as a whole to reach out and heal the wounds that are so prevalent in our neighborhoods.
“It is one of the few times of the year where most families have the chance to give thanks and fellowship with their loved ones,” said 22-year-old college student Raheem Thompson, who will be spending Thanksgiving in Georgia with his family.
“Thanksgiving was not only about one’s personal family, it was about all the families that were part of the human family,” Pinn said in his essay. “This is why African-American churches, small and large, prepared bags and boxes for families that did not have enough to eat; everyone was supposed to dine well on Thanksgiving. Even today, this tradition still continues and, now, some churches have elaborate lists that are handed out to church members long before Thanksgiving Day, to make sure that families within and not within the church receive bountifully on Thanksgiving. ”
Even before Black churches began the practice of serving the community on the holiday, the church has always been at the epicenter of the Black Thanksgiving. Throughout history, Thanksgiving Day sermons have been prominent in Black churches. The sermons were used to recount the hardships of the people as well as to prompt the advancement of the Negro community. African Methodist Episcopalian cleric, Reverend Benjamin Arnett, gave one particularly notable sermon to his congregation on November 30, 1876:
“Then let the grand Centennial Thanksgiving song be heard and sung in every house of God; and in every home may thanksgiving sounds be heard, for our race has been emancipated, enfranchised and are now educating, and have the gospel preached to them,” according to theGrio.
African Americans have a longstanding history with Thanksgiving, dating back to 1777. When the Continental Congress delivered the decree that the 13 colonies should give thanks for the victory over the British at Saratoga, African-Americans were able to take part in the celebrations. Field slaves caught wild game, according to theGrio, often accompanied by a serving of cornmeal, while house slaves ate leftovers from the plantation after the slave-owners families had finished.
In October of 1861, President Lincoln signed the proclamation of a national Thanksgiving Day, sealing that every American no matter race or creed would be able to observe the holiday.
“I do therefore invite my fellow citizens in every part of the United States, and also those who are at sea and those who are sojourning in foreign lands, to set apart and observe the last Thursday of November next, as a day of Thanksgiving and Praise to our beneficent Father who dwelleth in the Heavens,” the proclamation read.

Thanksgiving was the first American holiday Black people were invited to participate in and has since been cemented into the traditions of many families of color. For Black people, the holiday is more about coming together and being thankful for the progress made than it is about pilgrims or turkey.

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From Colorful Tresses to Bold Cornrows, Why is ‘Urban’ Only ‘Chic’ When White People Do It?

And while the edgy style received tons of praise and adoration, it begged the question as to why Black stars with unconventional colors don’t receive the same positive attention. 
The 17-year-old member of the Kardashian clan garnered so much attention from the bold style that the luxury hair extension brand Bellami Hair recently partnered with her to launch the Kylie Hair Kouture hair extension line. That same emerald green is a trademark color for the line and the extensions that come in that hue are already on backorder until January.
All throughout Hollywood and in mainstream media, style and beauty trends that were once considered too urban are now being praised as “chic” and “epic”—but only after white celebrities have adopted the trends as their own.
From daring, unconventional hair colors to fabulous cornrows, it seems like members of the Black community can’t get any credit for today’s so-called trends that originated in their own backyards and have been prevalent in the community for years.
To make matters worse, there is a double standard when it comes to these trends that slams Black women as unprofessional for incorporating styles that have earned their white counterparts much praise.
It was earlier this year that the youngest of the Jenner sisters first debuted the look on Instagram and set social media ablaze when she rocked it at the 2014 Billboard Music Awards.
Entertainment publications and fashion bloggers went into a frenzy over the style that one fan called “flawless” and Teen Vogue deemed “fierce.”
The unconventional hair color certainly gives the Jenner sister the bold color that fits her edgy style, but it is interesting that fashion and beauty blogs are considering this a major breakthrough when curvaceous rapper Nicki Minaj was not only known for her colorful tresses but even had to ditch the bold colors in order to be taken more seriously as a professional.
The towering wigs and hairpieces were admittedly too much for most people to handle without chuckling, but some fans might remember that there was a time when the “Starships” rapper flaunted colorful styles without the crazy theatrics.
Even then, however, the styles were scoffed at and ridiculed.
During an appearance on BET’s 106 & Park back in 2010, the rap star flaunted a green and blonde bob with a sleek white dress that wasn’t received well by fashion critics.
In Diddy’s “Hello Good Morning” remix video she rocked a turquoise and royal blue wig and she made those peek-a-boo pink highlights underneath jet black hair one of the most commonly copied celebrity styles for young Black women back in 2009 and throughout 2010.
All of these styles received negative feedback from a variety of fashion and style publications despite the fact that Nicole Richie has been praised for rocking both lilac and royal blue hair, Demi Lovato’s colorful ombre styles have been worshipped by Glamour and MTV even called the styles “glorious,” Fashion Police star Kelly Osbourne’s lilac tresses were described as “pastel perfection” by one hair blog and Yahoo! Lifestyle published an entire page gushing over Helen Mirren’s pink style, Perrie Edwards’s peek-a-boo pink highlights and Katy Perry’s royal blue bob.
For acting newcomer Camile Ervin, it’s a double standard that she is much too familiar with.
The 25-year-old has starred in several short films including My Day Life and Checkmate and will appear in the upcoming sci-fi thriller flick Deceptive Hearts in 2015.
“There are so many things we can’t do—we’re looked down upon,” Ervin told Atlanta Blackstar as she recalled her own experiences with the double standard. “We can’t do anything that they would consider edgy because for us it’s not edgy, it’s ‘ghetto’ or ‘ratchet.’”
That double standard doesn’t stop with quirky hair colors either.
Ervin explained that she constantly has been asked to tone down her nail colors or get more simplistic designs—only to see a white woman with designs similar to hers who is allowed to keep them.
“Designs on our nails is looked at as ghetto, too,” she added. “When white people do it though, it’s everything. It’s classy. It’s chic. It’s new. It’s fun.”
While Black women may not have been the first to introduce unconventional hair colors to the world and it could be nearly impossible to track down how bold nail art made its way to mainstream fashion, it’s interesting to see the different ways women of different races are treated for sporting similar fashions.
Ervin went on to point out how printed leggings are considered trashy on Black women while their white counterparts have brought the printed look into their own wardrobes with much praise and adoration.
“One [white] lady came in the office with these super weird outfits and once you kind of stepped back you got to see like, ‘Wow, this skirt is kind of short here and this shirt is showing a bit much for us to be in an office’ ” said a 21-year-old marketing student at Georgia State University whose internship had her reporting to the SunTrust Plaza building throughout the 2014 summer semester. “A few weeks later I came in with just a nice blouse kind of thing and leggings. They were thick but they were, you know, leggings. I guess some people would call them pants.”
The student, who asked to remain anonymous as she is applying for an entry-level position with the same company, said she was immediately sent home and asked to change.
The “Epic” Cornrows
Thanks to social media, fewer publications are getting away with deeming styles as revolutionary only after white stars have started flaunting them.
Earlier this year Marie Claire was forced to apologize for a tweet in which it claimed Kendall Jenner took “bold braids to an epic new level” by flaunting a few cornrows on the side of her head.
The LA Times also posted a photo of model Cara Delevingne with a cornrow style along with a quote that said, “Cornrows are moving away from urban, hip-hop to more chic and edgy.”
Black stars have been wearing cornrows for decades and the very nature of the style, including its name, originated in the Black community.
For the LA Times to imply that only now is the style becoming “chic,” it supports sentiments that aspects of style and fashion in the Black community hold less value until white stars start adapting the trends for their own use.
Only then is the style something worth talking about.
“It’s called ‘Columbusing,’ “ said Patrice Grell Yursik, author of the blog AfroBella, according to Refinery29.com. “It’s saying that something is new or your own without giving fair attribution to the original source.”
In most cases, not only is that “original source” not credited, but it is also shamed or targeted by critics.
The Big Booty Movement
When Jennifer Lopez teamed up with Iggy Azalea for her song “Booty,” it became an instant hit and the video, which mainly featured Lopez and Iggy flaunting their assets, became a viral sensation.
Nicki Minaj’s “Anaconda” video received the same treatment when it came to garnering serious traction online and going viral almost immediately upon being released.
There was one major difference in how the videos were treated, however.
Mainstream media outlets, including Access Hollywood, said Lopez’s video was “empowering” for women.
The “Anaconda” rapper, on the other hand, received a “double shrug” from GQ contributor Taffy Brodesser-Akner when she tried to imply that her video was also about empowering women to be in control of their sexuality.
Even before Sir Mix-A-Lot’s “Baby Got Back” was released back in 1992, and the rapper famously proclaimed “I like big butts and I can not lie,” there was no denying the adoration for curvy women in the Black community.
Meanwhile, Vogue claims that we have only recently entered the “Era of the Big Booty.”
Even Rihanna received negative backlash for posting videos of herself twerking on Instagram and Beyonce has been endlessly criticized for integrating her famous booty popping with her stance as a feminist, while Miley Cyrus is somehow still hailed as the pioneer of mainstream twerking and the fascination over Iggy Azalea’s rear end has grown to be insatiable.
As time has progressed it seems like Black women are being omitted from the conversation or are being targeted as overly sexualized beings while their white counterparts are dashing off with the big booty torch in their grasps, along with numerous other aspects of Black culture that have been successfully “Columbused” away from the Black community.

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Don’t Divorce Your Kids: Nick and Mariah Provide a Model of Successful Co-Parenting During Holiday Season

After the pain and complexity of divorce, couples with children are faced with a stage of their parenting journey that literally lasts forever: co-parenting.
Whether it’s realizing the importance of spending time together as a family even after divorce or fighting the temptation to compete for a child’s affection through expensive gifts, co-parenting is a complex relationship that is absolutely necessary to the well-being of any young child with divorced parents.
Nick Cannon and Mariah Carey’s marriage may be coming to an end, but the superstar couple has rightfully acknowledged the importance of remaining a family and spending the holidays together with their children.
Even in the midst of what InTouch Weekly claims will be a rough custody battle over their two adorable 3-year-old twins, Monroe and Morrocan, both of the stars agreed that they should still spend Thanksgiving and Christmas as a family.
It’s a mindset that is key for all divorcing parents.
As the old saying goes, you are divorcing your spouse, not your kids.
“Especially when children are very young, their interactions with both of their parents need to be regular and routine, and they need to be protected from exposure to parental conflict,” Dr. Edward Kurk, an Associate Professor of Social Work at the University of British Columbia, wrote for Psychology Today.
Dr. Kurk explains that when children are young, they are still forming bonds and growing attached to parents, so the divorce process should be mindful of this. Regardless of relationship issues, the children still need to feel like they are a part of a happy, whole family and continue to develop an attachment to both their mother and father.
Children who aren’t allowed to do so often develop “depression or anxiety” and may spend most of their time “yearning for the absent parent.”
Going through a divorce is an incredibly difficult thing to do, but when either parent reflects their frustrations with the former spouse on the children or encourages their children to see the other parent as a bad person, the results are usually disastrous. The child may come to feel as if the family is indeed a broken one, which can cause a “regression in behavior and general development,” Dr. Kurk wrote.
Meanwhile, Cannon and Carey have been subjected to backlash due to rumors that they only speak when the kids are involved, but the truth is that even this could be grounds for a co-parenting relationship.
It is not unusual for divorcing parents to make the mistake that it is mandatory for them to be best friends with their spouse after calling off the marriage. While a friendship would be ideal, it is not always the best option for some parents.
If there is tension existing between both parents that can spark serious feuds or arguments, especially with the children around, it is actually best for parents to keep communication limited unless it is about the children.
A series of “attachment” studies based on how children form bonds with parents suggest that the main focus should be making sure the children are not subjected to major changes as far as access to both parents and ensuring that they are not exposed to any actions or speech that would degrade the other parent.
Dr. Kurk also pointed out that while some studies have failed to find any substantial differences in development between a child who is raised by both parents and a child who is raised by one, these studies often omit a very important factor.
“The failure to recognize the depth of children’s attachments to both of their parents is the most significant omission, however, of attachment theorists and researchers who hold more traditional views about the parenting of infants and young children,” he added. “…Those families in which children are securely attached to two parents who have been integrally involved as caregivers since their children’s birth, co-parenting after divorce is vital to children’s well-being, and current attachment.”
While Cannon and Carey seem to be on the right track when it comes to co-parenting, many are concerned that Lil Wayne and his ex, Toya Wright, have fallen into the trap of competing for their daughter’s affection.
For Reginae Carter’s sweet 16, she received not one but two expensive luxury cars: a red BMW SUV from her rapping father and a white and black Ferrari GTO from her reality star mother.
Even after breaking up, parents should still work closely together when it comes to giving gifts so that their child is not receiving an overabundance of parents, particularly if the parents are acting as if they are in a parental gift competition.
“Trying to be the parent who spends the most money on your children’s gifts can turn giving into a contest where each parent tries to outdo the other with lavish and not very useful gifts,” the authors of “Parents Forever: The Impact of Divorce on Children Parent Handbook” wrote. “This is no gift for your child — giving your child too much, too soon, that doesn’t meet their real needs, is a setup for overindulgence.”
While their teenage daughter seemed to be elated over both vehicles, if one parent surfaces as a favorite it could be a complicated development as she moves further into her teen years—a time when equal respect and admiration for both parents is essential.
The “Parents Forever” authors say that if parents decide to give separate gifts, they should ensure the gifts are two very different items that aren’t really comparable.
They also stressed the importance of making sure that neither of the parents criticizes the other gift or tries to prompt the child to pick which gift was their favorite.
Needless to say, the co-parenting journey is not likely to be smooth—but it can be made easier when the two sides keep the needs and development of the child as a top priority

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Halle Berry Is Fighting For Nahla’s Hair, Perhaps Because She Knows Changes to a Black Girl’s Hair Could Have Long-Lasting Impact

Some people believed that the award-winning actress went too far when she sent Nahla’s brush to get tested in order to prove that Aubry had bleached her hair. But she may not be as crazy as some entertainment news sites make her out to be.
Bleaching and chemically straightening a child’s hair, especially a child of color, does have the potential to not only be harmful to her hair but to her self-esteem and perception of beauty as well, according to experts.
While this certainly may not always be the case, many parents underestimate the messages they are sending to their children if they do decide to use drastic measures to change their child’s appearance.
Debates are still going on about what methods Aubry even used to straighten Nahla’s hair and whether or not he actually bleached it, but this isn’t the first time that this topic sparked controversy in the Black community.
Many parents chemically straighten their child’s hair in order to make it easier to manage, while others just have fun experimenting with different looks.
What they don’t realize is that the constant manipulation could come at a great cost.
“In the instance of a child’s hair, if major changes such as a chemical relaxer, color highlights, extreme haircuts, and/or extensions are made because the belief of the parent/caregiver is that his/her child’s hair is ‘bad,’ ‘nappy,’ ‘hard to manage,’ or not the ‘right’ texture, length or color, it is has the potential to send a negative message that can be internalized,” Dr. Garica Sanford, a clinical psychologist in Texas who has spent years in the field working with children and helping parents understand their child’s behavior and emotions, told Atlanta Blackstar. “Children may begin to feel that their features are less attractive than that of other children, which can ultimately impact how they learn to view themselves. Furthermore, if the features that are being criticized or changed are connected to aspects of the racial or cultural identity, it may extend to how they feel about other aspects of their identity.”
Berry never said that she was afraid of Aubry “turning our daughter white,” but media outlets certainly focused on that angle and many of the actress’s fans do believe that that was her real concern.
At only 6-years-old, Nahla is navigating a time in her life when she is very impressionable and many parents should realize that conversations about race and racial identity should not wait until adolescence.
“Children are very impressionable and truly soak up information from their environment,” Dr. Sanford added. “Given children are increasingly exposed to external influences about their appearance from peers and the media, it is extremely important for parents to reinforce their child’s internal strengths as well as affirming their self-image at an early age…This can be even more important for Black children given that these external influences often may not look similar to their own appearance.”
America is still a society that seems to focus on light skin, long, straight hair and petite body frames as the ideal image of beauty.
In mainstream media, particularly shows for children, Black characters are hard to come by and many of them are rarely seen with natural hair, which could relay a message to young Black girls that their natural hair is “wrong.”
“The reality is that we are not color blind; children will learn to notice that peers look different at very early ages,” Dr. Sanford said. “However, parents can help them learn what meaning to attach to these differences. For example, when a child begins to notice that Sally’s hair is longer, lighter or straighter than their own hair, it is important to talk about these differences in a way that communicates appreciation for differences, and not a need to try to be similar.”
While some members of the Black community are still struggling to place a label on early hair manipulation as right or wrong, Dr. Sanford said the real discussion should be about a parent’s intentions rather than the action itself.
“It is important for caregivers to ask themselves why they are making such a decision, as well as consider how they are explaining or talking about the choice to the child,” Dr. Sanford said. “For example, the choice to straighten a child’s hair in itself may not necessarily have a negative impact on what the child learns to think about themselves and his or her hair.”
She explained that there is a difference between straightening the child’s hair for a certain occasion versus refusing to ever let a child wear or embrace their natural hair texture.
If a child sees straight hair as a styling option it won’t be detrimental to their perception of beauty and racial identity because they will see it as just that—an option.
When it comes to hair color, a child’s health could be more important than anything else.
Dr. Sanford said parents should always consult with a licensed beautician to discuss the “possible long-term impacts” on the child’s hair.
“Furthermore, when considering any type of chemical treatment for a child’s hair, it is important to be cognizant of other factors such as possible skin sensitivities, and even consider consultation with a dermatologist,” she said.
Defining hair manipulation for children as right or wrong is a nearly impossible task because that label will always be a subjective one, but it is absolutely essential that parents have open conversations with their children about the differences they will start to notice between their own appearance and those of other children of different backgrounds.

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7 SCIENTIFIC REASONS YOU SHOULDN’T SKIP BREAKFAST

Chances are you’ve heard many times in your life that breakfast is the most important meal of the day.
And over the years, there have been countless studies attempting to prove — and even disprove — this advice, and to determine the consequences if you miss out on this meal.

So, what is the truth? Is breakfast really that important? In short (no surprise), yes it is.

Should you skip breakfast? Probably not. And here are seven reasons why.

1. Having breakfast is good for your overall health.
There have been numerous studies over the years that have shown that eating breakfast frequently is beneficial for an individual’s health in several different ways.

For example, Harvard conducted a 16-year study of 26,902 American men aged 45 to 82 and found that those “who skipped breakfast had a 27 percent higher risk of coronary heart disease compared with men who did not.” In other words, these men were susceptible to heart attacks because of coronary heart disease associated with bad sugar levels.

Other research has found that eating breakfast can decrease the risk of type 2 diabetes in women and reduces obesity because it limits midmorning snacking. Of course, this doesn’t mean that you can eat an unhealthy fried dish every morning; it means that eating a well-balanced breakfast is just plain good for your health. Heck, forget well-balanced — just toss down a dish of cereal.

2. It improves your memory.
Another area of research has focused on the relationship between breakfast and short-term memory. One study released in the Journal of Adolescent Health of 319 adolescents (aged 13-20 years) found that “high energy intake from breakfast had a beneficial effect on immediate recall in short-term memory evaluated on the whole sample.”

There was also a study released in the Journal of Physiology and Behavior that discovered that eating breakfast, such as oatmeal, improved the spatial and short-term memories of elementary school children.

While these studies looked at children and teenagers respectively, it’s believed that eating breakfast can improve short-term memory in adults as well.

3. It boosts energy.
According to a 1999 study published in the International Journal of Food Sciences and Nutrition, consuming a breakfast high in fiber and low in carbohydrates will make you feel less tired during the day.

When your breakfast consists of items like whole-grain breads and cereals — which should provide at least four grams of fiber per serving — you’re fueling your body for the entire morning. If you are a high caffeine user, consider getting a protein into your body at breakfast, so that your caffeine has something to bind with for maximum energy.

4. It improves your mood.
A 1999 study in the Journal of Physiology and Behavior of 144 volunteers found that those who had breakfast cereal prior to the test sessions arrived in a better mood and were even calmer following the sessions than those who did not. In short, having these vital nutrients every morning can help make you more positive.

No matter what age you are, eating breakfast every morning will make you feel less restless and irritable.

5. You consume more nutrients.
Since most of us are on the go most of the time, it can become extremely difficult to eat a well-balanced meal. However, if you have the time every morning to eat breakfast, you are probably making sure that you also have the chance to consume important nutrients.

According to research published in the journal Nutrition Research and Practice, those who eat breakfast daily are consuming beneficial nutrients like calcium and fiber.

6. It helps burn calories.
Whether you’re dieting or not, breakfast is a great way to help burn those unwanted calories. By eating smaller meals throughout the day, you’re increasing your body’s metabolism. In fact, research conducted by Harvard of 17,000 men discovered “that those who frequently ate breakfast cereal — both refined grain or the whole-grain types — consistently weighed less than those who rarely or never ate breakfast cereal.”

7. It improves concentration.
This shouldn’t come as a surprise since breakfast has already been found to improve energy and short-term memory. Research has discovered that eating breakfast also boosts concentration. In a 2008 issue of Indian Pediatrics, it was found that “middle-school students who ate breakfast every day had better attention, concentration, memory, and school achievement than those who consumed breakfast only sometimes or never did.” During sleep, the main source of the brain’s energy, glucose, decreases, hence the help from breakfast.

Recent research explains that eating a healthy breakfast — such as eggs, oatmeal, yogurt, and fruit — keeps “blood sugar levels steady and allows optimal cognitive function throughout the day.”

It does take a little forethought and you may have to plan three extra minutes in the morning, but if you want to improve your health, memory, mood, concentration, and energy level, start eating a healthy (or mostly healthy) breakfast every morning.

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5 SIGNS HE IS DATING YOU BECAUSE OF THE SEX AND NOTHING MORE

So ladies, you met this great dude and you have probably had some nights of amazing sex with him; you want more but something deep inside you tells you all this guy wants is sex and nothing more.
Below are 5 signs he is dating you because of the amazing sex he gets from you and nothing more
1. YOU DON’T KNOW HIS FRIENDS:
Men love showing off and they are always eager to show the woman they love to their pals so if you have probably dated him for months and he hasn’t introduced you to any of his friends, then you mean nothing to him and all he wants from you is just sex.
2. HE DOESN’T TAKE YOU OUT ON A DATE:
Can you remember the last time he took you out on a date? The answer is NO because he has never taken you out on a date before. If he is into you just for the sex, there would be no date nights; the normal routine would be you coming to his house probably very late at night and leaving early the next morning. He won’t take you out on a date because he doesn’t want to be seen with you.
3. HE DOESN’T TALK ABOUT HIS FUTURE PLANS WITH YOU:
When all he wants is sex, he doesn’t talk about his future plans with you because he knows you are not part of his future. When you talk about him not being committed, you hear replies like ‘I am not the relationship type’.
4. TOO MANY PROMISES TOO SOON:
It’s just been weeks or even days you met him and he promises you the moon and the stars. He just wants sex and nothing more. To keep the sex going, he keeps on promising more so you don’t leave. The chances of these gifts materialising are slim and if he wants to keep the sex coming from you, he might probably give you just 1% of the promises and keep you hoping for more.
5. HE ONLY CALLS YOU WHEN HE WANTS TO SEE YOU:
If all he loves about you is the sex you give him and nothing more, he would rarely call. He would only think of you when he wants sex from you and that’s when he would call. When a guy truly loves a woman, he wants to hear her talk always, when he all he loves about her is sex, then he would only call when he wants sex.

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5 ROMANCE BOOKS YOU SHOULD READ THIS WEEKEND

Hello book lovers, hope you all had a great week? I have got 5 books you should read this weekend as you relax after a stressful week. If you love romance books, you definitely love these books.
Below are 5 romance books you should this weekend
1. AN UNTITLED LADY

**Not a traditional Regency**
Shocking family news forces Madeline Wetherby to abandon her plans to marry an earl and settle for upstart Manchester merchant Nash Quinn. When she discovers that her birth father is one of the weavers her husband is putting out of work—and a radical leader—Maddie must decide which family she truly desires, the man of her heart or the people of her blood.
An earl’s second son, Nash chose a life of Trade over Society. When protest marches spread across Lancashire, the pressure on him grows. If he can’t make both workers and manufacturers see reason he stands to lose everything: his business, his town, and his marriage.
As Manchester simmers under the summer sun, the choices grow more stark for Maddie and Nash: Family or justice. Love or money. Life or death.
2. CARESS OF DARKNESS

From the first moment I saw him, I knew that Rainer Engel was like no other man. Dangerously sexy and darkly mysterious, he both enticed me and terrified me.
I wanted to run–to fight against the heat that was building between us–but there was nowhere to go. I needed his help as much as I needed his touch. And so help me, I knew that I would do anything he asked in order to have both.
But even as our passion burned hot, the secrets in Raine’s past reached out to destroy us … and we would both have to make the greatest sacrifice to find a love that would last forever.
3. TEXAS MAIL ORDER BRIDE

“So beautiful. You make it impossible to think.” He pulled her against him and found her mouth. “You don’t know how long I’ve wanted to do this.”
When he let her up for air, she whispered as though she couldn’t trust her voice, “Is this another Texas custom?”
“Absolutely,” he growled. “Welcome to Texas.”
Rancher Cooper Thorne thinks his life is finally on an even keel-until Delta Dandridge steps off the stagecoach and claims she’s his mail order bride. Brash and quick-witted, the meddling Southern Belle is everything Cooper thought he never wanted…and everything his heart is telling him he needs.
But Cooper swore long ago that he’d never marry, and he aims to keep his word, especially now that the demons from his past have returned to threaten everything-and everyone-he holds dear…

4. WHEN ASH FALLS

#1 New York Times Bestselling Author Rachel Van Dyken returns to regency romance with the last and final installment in The London Fairy Tales series…A regency retelling of Snow White and The Seven Dwarves.
Ashton Wolfsbane, Earl of Gyles, has taken a vow of celibacy after blaming himself for his sister in laws death. After a failed suicide attempt, he’s dedicated his life to bring justice to the weak making it his personal vendetta to be the death dealer to the wicked, also known as The Grimm Reaper. He denies himself lusts of the flesh and is known throughout London because of his ability to kill effortlessly and without emotion, that is until he meets Princess Sofia, a woman hell bent on making him forget all his reasons for denying himself the one thing he’s always craved—love.
After rescuing the fair damsel, he thinks his job finished, that is until he discovers he’s to be the Princess’s escort throughout London until she’s safely married. It wouldn’t be such a hardship, except the Princess has made him an offer he can’t refuse. Show her passion, real passion.
Four weeks of giving into the desire he’s suppressed for so long–four weeks of bliss and then they’ll go their separate ways. But things aren’t always what they seem, and when rescuing a damsel, or making a deal with her, one must always be prepared for the consequences.
Seven Royal Guard, a Beast, a kingdom in chaos, and a girl as pure as the driven snow…Will they find their Happily Ever After?
5. MYSTIC HERO

A wise Satyr always pays his debts: Pawnshop owner Devlin Ward isn’t stupid. When Karma appears on his doorstep to cash in an old favor, he can’t refuse. It’s a simple request—accept a delivery and keep it safe. Unfortunately for Devlin, the “package” is a sullen teenage oracle who insists that he locate the Feather of Truth. Or else.
A promise is a promise: Mary Swain, a.k.a. Ma’at, Goddess of Truth, always honors her word. For the first time in centuries, she’s finally free of her debts and wants a new life, preferably away from Mystic, where every quaint shop and cozy restaurant is a reminder of her unreliable ex-boyfriend. Finally, she’s leaving and nothing’s going to stop her.

But when Devlin approaches her with the oracle’s dire warning and a frazzled plea for help, she can’t resist a tempting new adventure or his quietly sexy allure. Despite his best efforts to feign indifference, she knows Devlin is attracted to her too. He claims to have deep, dark secrets that even the Goddess of Truth can’t pry out of him. Or can she?

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11 QUOTES ONLY PEOPLE IN LOVE CAN RELATE WITH

Being in a relationship doesn’t mean that you’re in love, but loving someone and being loved in return is a benchmark for a successful relationship. Interestingly, so many people downplay the importance of being in love.
I selected some of the best and nicely written quotes that emphasizes on love and this can only be appreciated by people in love.
1. “When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.” — When Harry Met Sally
2. “When you love to the point where you don’t even have to utter the words “I love you”. When it is felt with the eyes, heard in through their smile and seen whenever their touch graces your body. That love is real.”—Darion Bentley
3. “The highest function of love is that it makes the loved one a unique and irreplaceable being.”—Tom Robbins, Jitterbug Perfume
4. “One is loved because one is loved. No reason is needed for loving.”—Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist
5. Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.
6. “The best love is the kind that awakens the soul; that makes us reach for more, that plants the fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds.”—The notebook
7. “Once you truly believe you’re worthy of love, you will never settle for anyone’s second best treatment.” — Charles J. Orlando
8. “It’s an unexplainable feeling, an expression. It’s a touch, it’s a feel. Once you feel it, it’s like no other thing in the world.” — Snoop Dogg
9. “You don’t love someone because they’re perfect, you love them in spite of the fact that they’re not.” ― Jodi Picoult, My Sister’s Keeper
10. “I would rather spend one lifetime with you, than face all the ages of this world alone.” — Lord of The Rings

11. “Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”—Lao Tzu

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DO YOU KNOW THAT QUARRELLING WITH YOUR PARTNER HAS AN ADVERSE EFFECT ON YOUR BODY? 7 RESEARCHES THAT PROVE SO

I hate the saying that it’s okay for partners to argue; when you feel it’s okay to argue then you would argue with your partner. After an argument, you would feel it’s okay and then another and another and another, till arguments become a usual part of the relationship.
Yes, you may reach a point where friction would come between you and your partner, it might be normal really, but it’s not okay to have the ideology that it’s okay to argue with your partner, because it always starts with just one argument.
There are various reasons backed by research where constantly arguing with your partner would bring damage to your health.
Below are some risks that come with the territory:
1. IT INCREASES THE RISK OF DEPRESSION
Have you noticed that a lot of people who suffer from depression or who have even gone on to commit suicide as a result of depression usually have a frail relationship? Constantly arguing with your partner can make depression set in and once depression sets in that relationship, it could lead to a host of other health risks and habits which could cause damage to your health like alcohol and drug abuse.
2. HIGHER MORTALITY RISK
Arguing constantly with your partner can lead to a higher risk of premature death. A research by Danish researchers from the university of Copenhagen found that constantly argue with a partner can increase a person’s mortality risk by two or three times. The worst part is men are even more vulnerable to this.
3. PHYSIOLOGICAL REACTION TO STRESS
Research has also found that constantly arguing with your partner has a physiological reaction to stress which can lead to high blood pressure, and an increased risk of cardiovascular diseases.
4. LOWERS THE IMMUNE SYSTEM
If you notice, after a heated argument with your partner you might tend to feel exhausted. Research has found that the reason behind this is that arguing with your partner can cause stress and when the body is stressed, it believes that there is a threat that needs to be cushioned. This goes on to affect the immune system and leaves you feeling exhausted. When your immune system is down, you can be exposed to sickness and diseases.
5. COULD LEAD TO AN INCREASE IN WEIGHT AND CHOLESTEROL LEVEL
Stress resulting from quarrelling with your partner can lead to an increase in weight and cholesterol level. When people are unhappy, there is this tendency to eat anything and this can lead to a bad eating habit. When you get to stuff yourself up with junk foods and other unhealthy foods, weight and cholesterol level could become an issue.
6. CHILDREN SUFFER FROM THIS
In the case of couples with kids, this also has an adverse effect on those young children. A research team from the University of Oregon has found that parents who argue in front of their babies cause them lasting damage because they are likely to suffer from stress later in life. They described infants brain as ‘highly plastic’ and found that even if a baby is asleep, hearing arguments between parents affects the way in which they process the emotional tones of voice. As a result babies from homes with conflicts display increased stress levels. It’s disturbing to see parents arguing in front of their little children.
7. HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE
As pointed out in the third tip, high blood pressure is a physiological stress that can result from arguing with your partner. During a heated argument with your partner, your body’s blood pressure rises because your heart starts pumping blood faster. More disturbingly, your blood pressure could remain that way after a sustained series of arguments.


If these seven reasons aren’t enough to quit the frequent fights and arguments in your marriage and relationship, I wonder what is. Quarrelling causes more harm than good to your relationship; talk about your relationship problems in a peaceful manner rather than raising the roofs at the slightest instance.

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ARE YOU GETTING MORE FIGHTS THAN LOVE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP?

Relationships are a typical example of the slogan—what you see isn’t always what you get. We all enter relationships to find love, happiness and solace, but sometimes, things go contrary to what we expect, and instead of happiness, sadness looms over the relationship, and breakup more often than not replaces solace.
Even the best of relationships have their little downside, meaning each relationship somehow has that trying time but overcoming those trying moments are what makes a relationship stronger.
Are you in a relationship where the fights seem to overshadow the love and arguments seem to overshadow understanding? What about that relationship where tension overshadows passion and resentment seems to be the new attraction?
The huge question is: when do you draw the line? How much should you hold back? Where do you go from there? How come yours seems never to get any better?
Then when you decide that it’s almost time and that the relationship is due, the love comes up, understanding looms over and passion reaches an unimaginable height, and then you’re thinking “my relationship has become better”, “I’m seeing changes in my partner”, “we are still in love”—not too long later, the hassle starts, the fights become even more intense and words are thrown that hurts even more than the weapons used in WorldWar2—it’s more like you took a step forward and two backwards.
This isn’t really a tale; every relationship has its fight and love moment but the balance between both is the difference between a successful and unsuccessful relationship. If you are in this situation where the relationship fights and troubles seem to overshadow the happy moments, you have two choices: work hard to repair your relationship or leave that relationship because the third option of staying in that relationship comes with its hazard; which choice would you make?

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ARE YOU GETTING MORE FIGHTS THAN LOVE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP?

Relationships are a typical example of the slogan—what you see isn’t always what you get. We all enter relationships to find love, happiness and solace, but sometimes, things go contrary to what we expect, and instead of happiness, sadness looms over the relationship, and breakup more often than not replaces solace.
Even the best of relationships have their little downside, meaning each relationship somehow has that trying time but overcoming those trying moments are what makes a relationship stronger.
Are you in a relationship where the fights seem to overshadow the love and arguments seem to overshadow understanding? What about that relationship where tension overshadows passion and resentment seems to be the new attraction?
The huge question is: when do you draw the line? How much should you hold back? Where do you go from there? How come yours seems never to get any better?
Then when you decide that it’s almost time and that the relationship is due, the love comes up, understanding looms over and passion reaches an unimaginable height, and then you’re thinking “my relationship has become better”, “I’m seeing changes in my partner”, “we are still in love”—not too long later, the hassle starts, the fights become even more intense and words are thrown that hurts even more than the weapons used in WorldWar2—it’s more like you took a step forward and two backwards.
This isn’t really a tale; every relationship has its fight and love moment but the balance between both is the difference between a successful and unsuccessful relationship. If you are in this situation where the relationship fights and troubles seem to overshadow the happy moments, you have two choices: work hard to repair your relationship or leave that relationship because the third option of staying in that relationship comes with its hazard; which choice would you make?

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5 KINDS OF PEOPLE YOU MUST NEVER MARRY!

Marriage always is a different ball game from dating. When you’re dating for the fun of it, some things can be tolerated, but if you’re dating someone with the thought of marrying them someday, then you must be very careful in the choice of partner you make because whatever decisions you take can have a long-lasting effect on your life. You must ensure you avoid certain kinds of people so your marriage turns out just as well as you want it to. To help you make your choice with much more ease, I have put this piece together. I hope you find it helpful.

1. MR/MISS ‘I’M MORE INTERESTED IN YOUR BODY THAN IN YOUR PERSONALITY’
There’s nothing wrong with your lover or partner loving and complimenting your body and sexual prowess, absolutely nothing wrong with that, but if that’s all they ever tell you, then, you should beware of them because it implies that they only see you as a sexual object, and nothing more. A person who truly cares about you doesn’t just compliment your outer beauty alone, they also compliment your personality because they’re in love with it just as much. Love isn’t partial, it comes complete and whole.
2. MR/MISS VAIN AND MATERIALISTIC
There’s nothing wrong with wanting to acquire wealth and property, but there should be a clear line between moderation and extremism. When someone seeks wealth at all costs, he/she can go to any length to achieve that objective, and that includes getting into all sorts of trouble and illegal activities. People like that can be a very bad influence on you and your reputation. Also, they usually do not care about anyone or anything as long as they get what they want, they’ll even put you at risk if that’s what it takes to get what they want. You certainly don’t want someone like this in your life for the longer term, trust me!
3. MR/MISS UNCONTROLLABLE ANGER
Everyone gets angry every once in a while, that is quite natural. However if your partner is in the habit of destroying property in their anger moments, it is no longer anger, but rage, and I suggest you ditch him/her because sooner or later, they might take it all out on you. No sane human being destroys property bought with hard-earned money just because they’re angry. A man or woman who has anger issues is irresponsible and is a potential danger to you and your kids.

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What is the King of Ratchets Joe Muchiri Doing With the Queen of Ratchets Vanessa Chettle?

 When it comes to partying Capital Fm's production manager Joe Muchiri is one guy who parties from Monday to Monday and when it comes to events hosting Lady Vanessa Chettle is one lady who can bring the whole house down thanks to her petite sexy body .

So today the two just met at Club Sailors in Hurlingham Nairobi and we all know when given a chance to they can drink like guzzlers. What am left to wonder is what next if the two gets completely wasted?

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Unconditional Love Starts with Loving Yourself

Your relationship with yourself is the central template from which all others are formed.

The relationship you have with yourself is the central relationship in your life.

At the heart of all the elements that make up your life experience family, friends,

love relationships, work is you. This is why an audiobook about the rules of love

begins with a rule not about relationships with others, but rather about the relationship

you have with yourself.

The quality of the relationship between you and your self is paramount, for all

your other relationships are based on it. This relationship acts as a template from

which all the unions in your life are shaped, setting the quality, tone, and texture for

how you relate to others and how they relate to you. It establishes the working model

of how to give and receive love. The depth and quality of the link between you and your

self ultimately determines the success of your relationships with others. If an authentic

love relationship is what you desire, then the first natural step you must take is to learn to

love, honor, and cherish yourself as a truly precious and lovable being.

The place within you that generates self love is the exact same place that

attracts authentic love from others. If that source is clouded, your ability to attract a

relationship is eclipsed. In order to bring light to that inner source, you will need first to

leam how to give to yourself what you are seeking from another. Love creates more love,

and when your own inner love light shines, you open yourself to experience the beautiful

wonder of a deep and powerful connection with another being.

At its core, loving yourself simply means believing in your own essential

worthiness. It is nurturing a healthy sense of positive self regard and knowing in your

heart that you are a valuable link in the universal chain. Loving yourself also means

actively caring for every facet of yourself. It shows up in every action you take, from

putting on a sweater to protect yourself from a chill to leaving a job that does not

fulfill you. It means tuning in to your own wants and needs and honoring them the

exact same way you want your partner to attend to you.

Not everyone grows up to have an innate sense of high self esteem or

worthiness. In fact, most of us need to work at our experience of valuing ourselves to

some degree throughout our lifetimes. Each person feels insufficient in one or more

areas, whether physical, intellectual, financial, or in interpersonal dynamics, emotional

maturity, or spiritual growth. However, respecting, nurturing, honoring, and cherishing

yourself is your birthright and something you can learn. Loving yourself is the best way

to learn how to love another. Love is an action that requires certain understandings,

skills, and capacities. By practicing loving with yourself, you train yourself to advance to

the next level…learning how to love another.
Your relationship with yourself is the central template from which all others are formed.

Only when you have successfully mastered taking care of your own needs can

you know how to extend that same attention to others. When you respect the validity

of your own thoughts and feelings, you can apply that consideration to others. When

you believe within yourself how valuable you are, you can then bestow authentic

Learning self love is the first step you must take in order to tap into the inner reaches of

your heart and soul and discover all that you are worth

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