Unconditional Love Starts with Loving Yourself

Your relationship with yourself is the central template from which all others are formed.

The relationship you have with yourself is the central relationship in your life.

At the heart of all the elements that make up your life experience family, friends,

love relationships, work is you. This is why an audiobook about the rules of love

begins with a rule not about relationships with others, but rather about the relationship

you have with yourself.

The quality of the relationship between you and your self is paramount, for all

your other relationships are based on it. This relationship acts as a template from

which all the unions in your life are shaped, setting the quality, tone, and texture for

how you relate to others and how they relate to you. It establishes the working model

of how to give and receive love. The depth and quality of the link between you and your

self ultimately determines the success of your relationships with others. If an authentic

love relationship is what you desire, then the first natural step you must take is to learn to

love, honor, and cherish yourself as a truly precious and lovable being.

The place within you that generates self love is the exact same place that

attracts authentic love from others. If that source is clouded, your ability to attract a

relationship is eclipsed. In order to bring light to that inner source, you will need first to

leam how to give to yourself what you are seeking from another. Love creates more love,

and when your own inner love light shines, you open yourself to experience the beautiful

wonder of a deep and powerful connection with another being.

At its core, loving yourself simply means believing in your own essential

worthiness. It is nurturing a healthy sense of positive self regard and knowing in your

heart that you are a valuable link in the universal chain. Loving yourself also means

actively caring for every facet of yourself. It shows up in every action you take, from

putting on a sweater to protect yourself from a chill to leaving a job that does not

fulfill you. It means tuning in to your own wants and needs and honoring them the

exact same way you want your partner to attend to you.

Not everyone grows up to have an innate sense of high self esteem or

worthiness. In fact, most of us need to work at our experience of valuing ourselves to

some degree throughout our lifetimes. Each person feels insufficient in one or more

areas, whether physical, intellectual, financial, or in interpersonal dynamics, emotional

maturity, or spiritual growth. However, respecting, nurturing, honoring, and cherishing

yourself is your birthright and something you can learn. Loving yourself is the best way

to learn how to love another. Love is an action that requires certain understandings,

skills, and capacities. By practicing loving with yourself, you train yourself to advance to

the next level…learning how to love another.
Your relationship with yourself is the central template from which all others are formed.

Only when you have successfully mastered taking care of your own needs can

you know how to extend that same attention to others. When you respect the validity

of your own thoughts and feelings, you can apply that consideration to others. When

you believe within yourself how valuable you are, you can then bestow authentic

Learning self love is the first step you must take in order to tap into the inner reaches of

your heart and soul and discover all that you are worth