Bale is wrong, La Liga’s not the best – Mourinho

Chelsea boss Jose Mourinho has rejected Gareth Bale’s claims that La Liga is the best league in the world, suggesting the Premier League holds that title.
The Portuguese spent three seasons with Real Madrid, winning the top flight once, before returning to Stamford Bridge in 2013 for a second stint.
That same summer, Bale swapped Tottenham for the Santiago Bernabeu in a €100 million move and impressed in his debut season as Carlo Ancelotti’s men lifted the Champions League and Copa del Rey.

Despite Bale’s proclamations that he is playing for the best club and within the best league in the world, Mourinho thinks the overwhelming domination of Barcelona, Real Madrid and Atletico Madrid weaken Spanish football.
“[Bale said that] because he’s there,” the former Inter and Porto coach, whose Blues are currently top of the Premier League, told BT Sport. “You have to accept what Gareth says, but I was also there.
“I won La Liga, I lost La Liga, but I [also] won La Liga, and I know clearly the differences between La Liga and the Premier League.
“To go to matches knowing that you are going to win for sure is not the best thing. In Spain everybody knows that two teams are top of the world. A third team like Atletico is doing wonderfully well and they won last year, which is not normal.

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AnUnpleasant Surprise for Black Women Married to White Men: Having Whites Think You’re a Prostitute

Maureen Evans Arthurs and husband

For Maryland native Maureen Evans Arthurs, getting mistaken for a prostitute due to her interracial marriage is a normal occurrence.
Arthurs, who has been married to her husband, Jamie, for over ten years, wrote via the Washington Post that it’s “not uncommon” for people to get the wrong idea about their relationship simply because of their different skin colors.
Her piece in the Post revealed an infrequently explored aspect of how the mainstream community’s racism can impact interracial relationships.
She wrote that it first occurred around four years ago at an event in California. A man offered to buy her a drink while she was standing with her husband. When she said No, he asked her “How much?”
The mother of one said that at first she didn’t understand what he meant by that. When it finally hit her, she couldn’t believe what he was implying.
“I was speechless, angry and embarrassed,” she wrote.
That was the first time she encountered a situation of that nature, but it wasn’t the last. She wrote that several men approached her at an event just last month.
She claimed that one of them said: “You’re on the wrong arm, sweetie, I wish I could go home with you,” and another propositioned, “We have this whole place to ourselves, it’ll be a shame if we don’t maximize our time here and slip away.”
The situation even made her doubt herself and how she appears to strangers.
“Here I was, a tall, dark-skinned, thin, twenty-something woman on the arm of a white man in his mid-thirties,” she wrote. “How mismatched and odd, I thought, we may have looked to some.”
Arthurs situation is not unique: she writes that nearly all of her friends in interracial relationships have had similar experiences at some point.
In September, Ebony editor Jamilah Lemieux wanted to see just how many Black women are affected by situations like this. She tweeted “RT if you are a Black woman (trans or cis) and have been assumed to be a sex worker by a White man.”
As of yesterday her tweet has had over 150 retweets and been favorited 58 times. Women tweeted back with their own experiences.
One woman wrote “Happened to me 17 years ago as a newlywed in Chicago when I was with my white husband, CPD (Chicago Police Department) stopped us. So humiliating.”
Another user tweeted “I was once hideously ostracized at a Hollywood birthday party. Only black woman. They REFUSED to believe I wasn’t a stripper.”
Even a white man felt the need to share his experience tweeting “My wife is from Haiti, together 16 yrs. I’m affectionate in public. Sit by her side in restaurants. And STILL get idiots.”

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Are You Setting Your Relationship Bar Too Low?

Photo Credit: Blanc et Noir via flickr

Although it is popular to accuse couples of setting themselves up for disaster by expecting too much from marriage, for many of us the problem is exactly the opposite: we don’t set our sights high enough.
In keeping our expectations low we may hope to prevent disappointment, but this strategy holds some serious dangers. Limited expectations generate a modest vision of what is possible and they can easily become self-fulfilling prophecies.
The greater the possibilities that we envision, the higher we are likely to set our goals. Where we aim has less to do with what we are actually capable of achieving than what we believe to be attainable or realistic.
Prior to Roger Banister’s breaking of the 4-minute mile in 1954, it was deemed impossible for a human being to achieve that feat. Almost immediately after his accomplishment, other runners joined the sub-4-minute-mile club. Within a decade, several hundred runners had done what ten years previously had been seen as impossible. Such is the power of expectations.
When Linda and I got married in 1972, I deliberately set my sights low. All the better to avoid the disappointment that I expected if I hoped for anything more than a comfortable arrangement in which we got along reasonably well and didn’t fight too much. Talk about low expectations.
Having observed very few examples of thriving long-term relationships, I approached marriage somewhat unenthusiastically. Truth be told, from my perspective, the idea of a good marriage was an oxymoron. Yet for reasons that I couldn’t at the time quite fathom, despite my resistance to it, I seemed drawn to marriage like a moth to a flame.
My game plan for resolving this paradox was to develop a strategy of limited engagement. All the better to minimize the chances of disappointment and suffering. Unfortunately, not only did my strategy fail to prevent disappointment, but it left me frequently feeling resentful and frustrated.
What I hadn’t factored in to the equation was that my head wasn’t the only part of me that was engaged.  As Blaise Pascal famously said, “The heart has its reasons of which reason knows nothing,” and my heart had its own agenda. Ultimately, it insisted on having its say…

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5 KINDS OF PEOPLE YOU MUST NEVER MARRY!

Marriage always is a different ball game from dating. When you’re dating for the fun of it, some things can be tolerated, but if you’re dating someone with the thought of marrying them someday, then you must be very careful in the choice of partner you make because whatever decisions you take can have a long-lasting effect on your life. You must ensure you avoid certain kinds of people so your marriage turns out just as well as you want it to. To help you make your choice with much more ease, I have put this piece together. I hope you find it helpful.

1. MR/MISS ‘I’M MORE INTERESTED IN YOUR BODY THAN IN YOUR PERSONALITY’
There’s nothing wrong with your lover or partner loving and complimenting your body and sexual prowess, absolutely nothing wrong with that, but if that’s all they ever tell you, then, you should beware of them because it implies that they only see you as a sexual object, and nothing more. A person who truly cares about you doesn’t just compliment your outer beauty alone, they also compliment your personality because they’re in love with it just as much. Love isn’t partial, it comes complete and whole.
2. MR/MISS VAIN AND MATERIALISTIC
There’s nothing wrong with wanting to acquire wealth and property, but there should be a clear line between moderation and extremism. When someone seeks wealth at all costs, he/she can go to any length to achieve that objective, and that includes getting into all sorts of trouble and illegal activities. People like that can be a very bad influence on you and your reputation. Also, they usually do not care about anyone or anything as long as they get what they want, they’ll even put you at risk if that’s what it takes to get what they want. You certainly don’t want someone like this in your life for the longer term, trust me!
3. MR/MISS UNCONTROLLABLE ANGER
Everyone gets angry every once in a while, that is quite natural. However if your partner is in the habit of destroying property in their anger moments, it is no longer anger, but rage, and I suggest you ditch him/her because sooner or later, they might take it all out on you. No sane human being destroys property bought with hard-earned money just because they’re angry. A man or woman who has anger issues is irresponsible and is a potential danger to you and your kids.
4. MR/MISS ‘KNOW IT ALL’
Relationships aren’t just for sex and physical satisfaction alone, they’re meant to help people learn from each other and gain mental improvement. If your partner never listens or take corrections from you, and is always trying to impose his own ideas on you, run as far away from him/her as possible because someone like that hasn’t an iota of respect for you and what you represent. Marriage with someone of that nature will bring nothing but misery to you.
5. MR/MISS ‘I HAVE NO PLANS FOR THE FUTURE’
Of course they won’t literally tell you they have no plans for the future. I doubt anyone is that daft. Lol. However, with a person’s actions and general attitude toward life, you’ll be able to easily tell how seriously they take their future. For instance, if your partner (man or woman) has no job, and isn’t seeking to engage himself or herself in something productive, and never discusses his future plans or projections with you, such a person isn’t serious about life, and you have no business being with someone like that in the first place…run, and run for your life.



P.S: Never get into marriage with any of the sort of people listed above in hope that you can ‘change them’. People have tried it in the past, and it always never ends well. Some people are just incorrigible. If he/she doesn’t love you enough to turn a new leaf before marriage, they might not change after.

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TOP 6 LIES MEN TELL JUST TO GET INTO YOUR PANTS

If a man really wants a woman he perceives he can’t get the easy way, he usually cooks up different stories he can tell her to win her heart (more like deceive her into giving in to his desires), and that is why women must be more careful in dealing with men. When a guy comes your way, be sure to access him properly, lest you fall for one of the following lies…the top 6 lies men tell just to get into your pants. Read, and thank me later…

1. I’M SINGLE…AND READY TO MINGLE
When a man desperately wants to get in bed with you, he’s going to do everything he can to achieve that purpose, and that includes lying about his relationship status. If he tells you he has a girlfriend, chances are you’ll run in the other direction. One of the common lies men tell is that they’re single when they’re actually in a relationship. Sometimes you have to take his word for it, but if you take the time to do some digging of your own, you might find out something that will kill-off any feeling you have for him.
2. I WON’T TELL ANYONE
Sometimes, you like a guy, and wanna hook up with him, but somehow, you have doubts about his ability to keep secrets. Now, being the smart man that he is, he’ll want to delete your doubts. He’ll promise you that he’ll keep your romance a secret, but he’ll end up bragging to his friends. Once he blabs to one person, it can quickly become public knowledge, and it won’t stay secret for long.
3. YOU’RE AMAZING/YOU’RE JUST MY TYPE

Ladies, beware when a man constantly showers you with compliments. Of course they’re genuine sometimes, but often times, they’re nothing but a ploy to get you in bed. If he feels like he has to butter you up before you’ll kiss him or have sex with him, he’ll say whatever he has to say. He’ll tell you you’re beautiful, and that you’re so ‘marryable’ (if there’s such a word). He might even tell you that he loves you. If you’re anywhere near a bed, don’t always take his word for it.
4. I EARN BIG
This lie is often used on women who are more attracted to men with higher incomes. If a guy perceives that you’re easily impressed by a fat wallet and fancy things, he’ll use that weakness against you. He’ll lie about his job; how much he earns, and what he does for a living. He’ll tell you that he makes six figures, or that he recently got promoted. He’ll say whatever he can to appear more marketable. There are women who just fall prey to this sort of lie, not because they are attracted to money, but because they met the wrong guy.
5. I LOVE CHILDREN…CAN’T WAIT TO HAVE MINE
If a man’s really desperate, he’ll also lie about something as important as children. I mean, what do women love more than babies? In an attempt to impress you, he’ll make you believe that he loves babies, and that he wants to get married and have kids as soon as possible. That way, you’ll think of him as a potential mate, and won’t mind jumping into bed with him. This is one of the most deceitful ways men use to get into a woman’s pants.
6. I JUST WANT TO CUDDLE
It’s common knowledge that women like cuddling a lot. They love to feel a man’s body pressed against their own, and most times, when they do it, they do it for the sake of it, and nothing more. However, men rarely cuddle for the sake of it. If a man wants to cuddle with you, chances are he wants to have sex in the process…so ladies, always be wary. It’s possible that he’s romantic, but most times, he’s using cuddling as an excuse to get into your pants.

So ladies, BEWARE!

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DO YOU KNOW THAT QUARRELLING WITH YOUR PARTNER HAS AN ADVERSE EFFECT ON YOUR BODY? 7 RESEARCHES THAT PROVE SO

I hate the saying that it’s okay for partners to argue; when you feel it’s okay to argue then you would argue with your partner. After an argument, you would feel it’s okay and then another and another and another, till arguments become a usual part of the relationship.
Yes, you may reach a point where friction would come between you and your partner, it might be normal really, but it’s not okay to have the ideology that it’s okay to argue with your partner, because it always starts with just one argument.
There are various reasons backed by research where constantly arguing with your partner would bring damage to your health.
Below are some risks that come with the territory:
1. IT INCREASES THE RISK OF DEPRESSION
Have you noticed that a lot of people who suffer from depression or who have even gone on to commit suicide as a result of depression usually have a frail relationship? Constantly arguing with your partner can make depression set in and once depression sets in that relationship, it could lead to a host of other health risks and habits which could cause damage to your health like alcohol and drug abuse.
2. HIGHER MORTALITY RISK
Arguing constantly with your partner can lead to a higher risk of premature death. A research by Danish researchers from the university of Copenhagen found that constantly argue with a partner can increase a person’s mortality risk by two or three times. The worst part is men are even more vulnerable to this.
3. PHYSIOLOGICAL REACTION TO STRESS
Research has also found that constantly arguing with your partner has a physiological reaction to stress which can lead to high blood pressure, and an increased risk of cardiovascular diseases.
4. LOWERS THE IMMUNE SYSTEM
If you notice, after a heated argument with your partner you might tend to feel exhausted. Research has found that the reason behind this is that arguing with your partner can cause stress and when the body is stressed, it believes that there is a threat that needs to be cushioned. This goes on to affect the immune system and leaves you feeling exhausted. When your immune system is down, you can be exposed to sickness and diseases
5. COULD LEAD TO AN INCREASE IN WEIGHT AND CHOLESTEROL LEVEL
Stress resulting from quarrelling with your partner can lead to an increase in weight and cholesterol level. When people are unhappy, there is this tendency to eat anything and this can lead to a bad eating habit. When you get to stuff yourself up with junk foods and other unhealthy foods, weight and cholesterol level could become an issue.
6. CHILDREN SUFFER FROM THIS
In the case of couples with kids, this also has an adverse effect on those young children. A research team from the University of Oregon has found that parents who argue in front of their babies cause them lasting damage because they are likely to suffer from stress later in life. They described infants brain as ‘highly plastic’ and found that even if a baby is asleep, hearing arguments between parents affects the way in which they process the emotional tones of voice. As a result babies from homes with conflicts display increased stress levels. It’s disturbing to see parents arguing in front of their little children.
7. HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE
As pointed out in the third tip, high blood pressure is a physiological stress that can result from arguing with your partner. During a heated argument with your partner, your body’s blood pressure rises because your heart starts pumping blood faster. More disturbingly, your blood pressure could remain that way after a sustained series of arguments.


If these seven reasons aren’t enough to quit the frequent fights and arguments in your marriage and relationship, I wonder what is. Quarrelling causes more harm than good to your relationship; talk about your relationship problems in a peaceful manner rather than raising the roofs at the slightest instance.

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SHOULD MARRIAGE BE THE ULTIMATE REASON WHY WE DATE?

Should getting married to a person be the only reason why we enter a relationship with that person? Is it right to make marriage the ultimate goal?
This question will definitely divide opinions and it was in fact a topic of a heated debate between my pals the last time we hanged out.
Some argued if you are in a relationship where there is no potential for marriage, you are just wasting your time and they don’t see the need for such relationships. They argued that when we fall in love with someone, we hope to build a future with that special someone.
They also argued a relationship without the prospects of marriage is a waste of time as it’s only based on sex and nothing more.
The other group felt marriage shouldn’t be the reason why we date. They argued you could meet someone you want to have a relationship with but you both know you can’t get married. They argued because you can’t get married to someone shouldn’t stop you from sharing an intimate relationship with that person.
They also argued that there are people who don’t want to get married; should such people avoid relationships because they don’t want to get married?
We all know how such arguments end, no one really wins. LOL.
So what do you think about this subject, should marriage be the ultimate reason why we date someone?

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Neuer: I’m not a global brand like Ballon d’Or rivals Ronaldo & Messi

Manuel Neuer says he is at a disadvantage in the race for this year’s Ballon d’Or as he is not a “global brand” like fellow nominees Cristiano Ronaldo and Lionel Messi.
The Gelsenkirchen native is widely credited with revolutionising the role of the goalkeeper because of his footballing skills and the way in which he serves as a makeshift sweeper, while he is also coming off the back of a year in which he won the World Cup with Germany and the double with Bayern Munich.
However, Neuer does not feel he has much chance of getting the better of Ronaldo or Messi, given the pair’s superstar status.

“I’m proud just to be one of the candidates for the Ballon d’Or,” the 28-year-old told Suddeutsche Zeitung. “The other two players are global brands in their own right and maybe for that reason have an advantage.”

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Manchester United received a Christmas boost after midfielder confirms return to training

Manchester United’s injury crisis seems to be easing as we reach the midway point of the Premier League season.
Red Devils midfielder Daley Blind has confirmed his return to training following a month’s spell on the sidelines with a knee injury he sustained while on international duty with the Netherlands team.
The Dutch midfielder had started all the eight matches he was available for since his summer move from Eredivisie club Ajax. The midfielder is a key component of Louis van Gaal’s team as he can be a very versatile player, who can play in the defensive midfield role or provide cover at the left wing-back position.

Blind confirmed on the social networking site Twitter that his recovery process is on track as he resumed training outside for the first time since his injury.
“The football boots are back! Started training outside again, great feeling!” Blind tweeted on Tuesday.
However, the midfielder is not expected to return to first-team action before January as he continues his recovery, but the Mirror report claims that the former Ajax midfielder could return for United’s FA Cup fixture against Yeovil Town or their Premier League fixture against Southampton on 11th January.
Meanwhile, the United manager has given an injury update ahead of the festive fixtures when the Old Trafford club will face Newcastle United, Tottenham and Stoke City in the space of seven days.
Van Gaal revealed that Marouane Fellaini is still sidelined, but he hopes that Chris Smalling can return for the Boxing Day clash against the Magpies following a test on Christmas day.
“I don’t think so, I am sorry. Maybe Smalling. Fellaini is still not available. Smalling is a question mark – I have to look tomorrow but it’s always like that. For a few players it [this period] is fun because they are recovering quickly, but you also have players who are not recovering so quickly, so I have to rotate. My problem is I have a lot of injured players. That is the problem with these,” Van Gaal told United’s official site

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